You have been given your own exclusive abilities to accomplish anything you can dream of in your life. Many folks waste time focusing on someone else's abilities without stopping to realize their own. The key in making your own discovery comes from transferring that energy back to the source at hand. The true discovery is found within.
You have been blessed with a specialty that makes others step back and take notice even if you have not made the discovery of what your gift is yet. Take the time to look at what you do well and you will soon discover that unique gift or gifts that you possess that no one can do quite like you.
Once you come to the understanding that everything you need to succeed in your chosen field of expertise is already lying dormant inside of you waiting for recognition.
When you think about yourself and your life, what are the first things that come to mind? Do you think about how closely related your own gifts and talents are to making your dreams come true?
Perhaps you need to afford yourself a little break so that you can think about it. You may make an amazing discovery about yourself! You may realize that you have a number of gifts and talents which none of your friends or family members have. You may also realize that these gifts and talents are your keys to your success.
When you begin to develop your own abilities, you will make another important discovery. You will see how deeply your own unique characteristics can affect your life. Not only is success within your means, the keys to success are within you yourself.
Everyone has some unique gifts. When you discover what your particular gifts are, this is the very first key in applying your special talents to your own life. Your dreams will become much more than dreams, because you will see that you have it within you to make all of those dreams come true. You can look at success as something that is well within your ability to achieve. No matter what your particular focus may be, realizing this is the first step on the ladder to success.
While making this discovery may come as a surprise, it is likely that you have always noticed their existence. You probably just didn't know how crucial they really are. When you have special strengths, they can have a profound influence on how you view yourself, the choices you make, who you are, and your amazing potential.
Even if you have not thought of it yet, you have the potential for greatness. The factor which will help to clarify how far you may go is how far you reach. When you make the discovery that you have the special gifts and talents to achieve whatever you desire in life, nothing but the sky is the limit.
Author: Anthony K. Wilson, Sr.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Understanding the symptoms of a panic attack
There are more and more people suffering with panic and anxiety attack than ever before. This is due to a number of factors; however, the primary factor for the exponential growth of panic disorders is that we are more and more exhausted. When we are tired, run down and overworked we are at our most vulnerable. At this point of vulnerability is the birthplace of our anxiety. Anxiety is our minds defense mechanism to warn us of danger and to promote self preservation. Most panic treatments revolve around medication or relaxation techniques. These outdated and incomplete panic treatments only address the symptoms, they don’t address the cause. Without treating the cause we can never be set free of this disorder.
In order to implement reliable and effective panic treatments, you have to understand why you are manifesting the emotional, mental and physical symptoms of a panic disorder. As I had said, you find yourself very exhausted and life is taking its toll on you and everything that could go wrong does go wrong. Your sympathetic neurological system senses that you are extremely vulnerable and understands that consciously you are doing nothing to combat this. It believes you are defenseless and reacts by activating your self preservation instincts to kick start your recovery. The method to fire off this effect is to increase your anxiety levels so high that your sub conscious believes you are in imminent danger. Your body then goes into self defense mode in preparation for a fight or flight reaction to this perceived danger. This is when the physical symptoms occur.
In regards to the fact that your body is defending itself, it will increase the blood supply to the necessary limbs. This often violent heart pounding is interpreted as a potential heart attack. Coupled with the fact that your blood is drained from weak areas to prevent blood loss from the skins, toes and fingers, this often leaves tingling feelings in those limbs. Breathing is escalated to oxygenate the muscle tissue, which often results in the sufferer trying to counteract this breathing and this conflict results in choking and feelings of suffocation.
Once you understand the context of these symptoms it becomes much easier to implement panic treatments. Your panic treatments can now deal effectively with the attack by virtue of the fact that your panic treatments are not opposing your bodies’ natural desire to protect yourself. Think carefully about the panic treatments you have had or undergoing and then think about what you felt like before your attack. If you felt over run, vulnerable and exhausted then your panic attack was probably a defensive reaction. This means that your panic treatments need to help you cure your vulnerabilities and you will get your anxiety under control.
Author: Vincent Jeffries
In order to implement reliable and effective panic treatments, you have to understand why you are manifesting the emotional, mental and physical symptoms of a panic disorder. As I had said, you find yourself very exhausted and life is taking its toll on you and everything that could go wrong does go wrong. Your sympathetic neurological system senses that you are extremely vulnerable and understands that consciously you are doing nothing to combat this. It believes you are defenseless and reacts by activating your self preservation instincts to kick start your recovery. The method to fire off this effect is to increase your anxiety levels so high that your sub conscious believes you are in imminent danger. Your body then goes into self defense mode in preparation for a fight or flight reaction to this perceived danger. This is when the physical symptoms occur.
In regards to the fact that your body is defending itself, it will increase the blood supply to the necessary limbs. This often violent heart pounding is interpreted as a potential heart attack. Coupled with the fact that your blood is drained from weak areas to prevent blood loss from the skins, toes and fingers, this often leaves tingling feelings in those limbs. Breathing is escalated to oxygenate the muscle tissue, which often results in the sufferer trying to counteract this breathing and this conflict results in choking and feelings of suffocation.
Once you understand the context of these symptoms it becomes much easier to implement panic treatments. Your panic treatments can now deal effectively with the attack by virtue of the fact that your panic treatments are not opposing your bodies’ natural desire to protect yourself. Think carefully about the panic treatments you have had or undergoing and then think about what you felt like before your attack. If you felt over run, vulnerable and exhausted then your panic attack was probably a defensive reaction. This means that your panic treatments need to help you cure your vulnerabilities and you will get your anxiety under control.
Author: Vincent Jeffries
Do You Set Yourself Up to Succeed?
We recently brought a wild horse into our family and my mate has been applying a training method called Natural Horsemanship.
This method encourages the trainer to observe where the horse is at in their understanding and begin the teachings from there. For example, our new charge had never been touched by a human so the first step was to attach a stuffed work glove to a long stick and gingerly touch Cricket with the surrogate “hand” as she walked by. It startled her at first but she gradually got used to it and the lessons increased from there.
The process was slow at the beginning, there were days the “hand” was no big deal and other days where she responded like she’d never seen such a scary thing before in her life. But my mate’s patience and consistency created an amazing trust between the two, so future learning came at increasing speeds.
I’ve been giving myself a hard time lately about learning something new. I’ve expected myself to just “get it” even though it’s a pretty foreign concept to me considering how I was raised (how most of us were raised). Instead of applying the gentler approach of natural horsemanship I’ve just made my lessons harder and harder and then wondered why I became flustered and confused.
The concept I’ve been incorporating into my life is this idea of how we create our own experience or reality. I have no quarrel with the concept; I’ve seen way too much evidence of its effects on my life and in lives of others around me to turn back now, but there are still some areas in my life where I have enough resistance to this new philosophy that nothing (in that area) really shifts for me and my task has been to go back and find out “where I’m at” on these topics so that I can start to change things at an internal level.
The process is about uncovering hidden beliefs. Now this is not about doing huge excavating in your life and tearing apart old memories and dissecting conversations, it’s just about taking the time to become aware of what you believe about certain things. Whether you know it or not you have been influenced by your family, religion, culture, the media and society-at-large. This is the stuff that plays in the background and contributes to you sabotaging certain aspects of our life.
For example if we were taught that “money is the root of all evil” then acquiring money can encourage feelings of guilt or it can even prevent us from ever having any money in the first place so that we can continue to be “good” people. Many of us have underlying beliefs that play out in love, in our careers, in our family dynamics, in our health and in our Sense of Self. And we can choose to alter those beliefs at any time!
I’ve been reading a book called the Brain That Changes Itself by Dr. Norman Doidge, MD. It speaks to a new science called NeuroPlacticity and it’s all about how we can change how our brain functions by setting up new expectations for it. But the conclusions of the book speak to our need to UNlearn behavior before we can apply NEW learning.
UNlearning is a process that one needs to allow time for. You simply can’t make a new connection when the old connection is still in place.
So, I’ve been encouraged to explore more areas of my life where ineffective beliefs are still playing out (and holding me back). I can actually “set myself up to succeed” by understanding that I’ve got some programming running in the background and being aware of it is the first step in letting it go. Replacing that belief with what I’d prefer to believe is the next step and practicing the new thought is step three. Step three can take some time or it can just be a “click” and everything falls into place. However it unfolds, its worth the effort!
I’ve learned a lot in the last few years – I’ve changed some of the BIG beliefs about Money, Love and my Sense of Self and now it’s time for the next layer, the subtler beliefs, it’s time to understand where I’m really at and begin building the learning from there.
At this very moment - I’m encouraged by the effectiveness of this method as I witness my mate riding Cricket passed the window as I write. Her head is high, she is completely comfortable and her rider has a grin from ear to ear.
I’ve simplified this process (above) for the space allowed in a short article, it’s important to note that this is often the biggest challenge for most people and I’ve designated much of the www.RubyShuze.com curriculum to give you tools and resources to UNlearn the unconscious beliefs that are standing in your way.
If you are aware of areas in your life where you keep getting the same (undesired) results? Ie: Different jobs but the same tensions, different relationships but the same problems, new friends but the same expectations? I would encourage you to begin there and pick up some helpful tools that you can make use of in your exploration.
Author: RubyShuze
This method encourages the trainer to observe where the horse is at in their understanding and begin the teachings from there. For example, our new charge had never been touched by a human so the first step was to attach a stuffed work glove to a long stick and gingerly touch Cricket with the surrogate “hand” as she walked by. It startled her at first but she gradually got used to it and the lessons increased from there.
The process was slow at the beginning, there were days the “hand” was no big deal and other days where she responded like she’d never seen such a scary thing before in her life. But my mate’s patience and consistency created an amazing trust between the two, so future learning came at increasing speeds.
I’ve been giving myself a hard time lately about learning something new. I’ve expected myself to just “get it” even though it’s a pretty foreign concept to me considering how I was raised (how most of us were raised). Instead of applying the gentler approach of natural horsemanship I’ve just made my lessons harder and harder and then wondered why I became flustered and confused.
The concept I’ve been incorporating into my life is this idea of how we create our own experience or reality. I have no quarrel with the concept; I’ve seen way too much evidence of its effects on my life and in lives of others around me to turn back now, but there are still some areas in my life where I have enough resistance to this new philosophy that nothing (in that area) really shifts for me and my task has been to go back and find out “where I’m at” on these topics so that I can start to change things at an internal level.
The process is about uncovering hidden beliefs. Now this is not about doing huge excavating in your life and tearing apart old memories and dissecting conversations, it’s just about taking the time to become aware of what you believe about certain things. Whether you know it or not you have been influenced by your family, religion, culture, the media and society-at-large. This is the stuff that plays in the background and contributes to you sabotaging certain aspects of our life.
For example if we were taught that “money is the root of all evil” then acquiring money can encourage feelings of guilt or it can even prevent us from ever having any money in the first place so that we can continue to be “good” people. Many of us have underlying beliefs that play out in love, in our careers, in our family dynamics, in our health and in our Sense of Self. And we can choose to alter those beliefs at any time!
I’ve been reading a book called the Brain That Changes Itself by Dr. Norman Doidge, MD. It speaks to a new science called NeuroPlacticity and it’s all about how we can change how our brain functions by setting up new expectations for it. But the conclusions of the book speak to our need to UNlearn behavior before we can apply NEW learning.
UNlearning is a process that one needs to allow time for. You simply can’t make a new connection when the old connection is still in place.
So, I’ve been encouraged to explore more areas of my life where ineffective beliefs are still playing out (and holding me back). I can actually “set myself up to succeed” by understanding that I’ve got some programming running in the background and being aware of it is the first step in letting it go. Replacing that belief with what I’d prefer to believe is the next step and practicing the new thought is step three. Step three can take some time or it can just be a “click” and everything falls into place. However it unfolds, its worth the effort!
I’ve learned a lot in the last few years – I’ve changed some of the BIG beliefs about Money, Love and my Sense of Self and now it’s time for the next layer, the subtler beliefs, it’s time to understand where I’m really at and begin building the learning from there.
At this very moment - I’m encouraged by the effectiveness of this method as I witness my mate riding Cricket passed the window as I write. Her head is high, she is completely comfortable and her rider has a grin from ear to ear.
I’ve simplified this process (above) for the space allowed in a short article, it’s important to note that this is often the biggest challenge for most people and I’ve designated much of the www.RubyShuze.com curriculum to give you tools and resources to UNlearn the unconscious beliefs that are standing in your way.
If you are aware of areas in your life where you keep getting the same (undesired) results? Ie: Different jobs but the same tensions, different relationships but the same problems, new friends but the same expectations? I would encourage you to begin there and pick up some helpful tools that you can make use of in your exploration.
Author: RubyShuze
Feed your mind with positive ideas and you will reach your goals
I have been reading many biographies about successful people and the ways they achieved the success in their lives. I found that many of the successful men and women from the past had clearly set goals and reviewed them daily. They began achieving success when they started getting up in the morning and spending time alone.
I found that I need to feed my mind with positive ideas.
Supposedly, this is called the Golden Hour. The first hour sets the tone for the day. The things that I do in the first hour prepare the mind and set me up for the entire day. During the first half an hour or so of the day, I spend time to reflect on my present and future plans and goals.
There are some things that everyone can do on daily basis during that quiet time in the morning. Every time you write your goals again, you write them as if they already happened. This way you could write "I have made X amount of dollars"; "I have accomplished X"; "I weigh a certain number of pounds." I have found that this exercise of writing and rewriting your goals everyday is one of the most powerful things I ever learned. It keeps me focused and keeps me in the positive mind set throughout the day.
Everyone's life will start to take off at such a speed that they will have to put on your seatbelt. Everything is about building up and developing belief system until you finally reach the point where you are absolutely convinced that nothing can stop you from achieving what you set out to achieve.
No one starts out with this kind of an attitude, I did not. But I developed it using the law of attraction. Everything counts. No efforts are ever lost. Every accomplishment is the result of many small accompishments which go often unrecognized, but they are all attracted to you. The greatest challenge of all is for anyone to concentrate their thinking single-mindedly on the goal. Through this anyone can inevitably draw into their life the people, circumstances and opportunities they need to achieve their goals.
I have come to a conclusion that as you master yourself and your thoughts, you will start attracting ideas and opportunities to your life to help you to become wealthy and successful. It's worked for me and for many successful people I know. It will work for you if you'll begin today, now, this very minute, to think and talk about your dreams and goals as though they were already a reality. You will change you life once you change your thinking. You will put yourself firmly on the road to success and independence.
I am not saying that every wish, every thought will be granted to you. But this process will change the outlook you have on the world, on your circumstance and on your life. This will start attracting the positive into your life.
Here are two things I do every single day to keep my mind focused on my success goals:
First, I get up every morning a little bit earlier and plan my day in advance. I take some time to think about my goals and how I can best achieve them. This sets the tone for the whole day.
Second, I reflect on the valuable lessons I am learning each day as I work toward my goals. I need to be prepared to correct my course and adjust my actions. I need to be absolutely convinced that I am moving rapidly toward my goals, no matter what happens temporarily on the outside. I just need to feed my mind with positive ideas!
I would like to leave you today with one of my favourite quotes by Michelangelo: "The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it."
Author: Helena Syptak
I found that I need to feed my mind with positive ideas.
Supposedly, this is called the Golden Hour. The first hour sets the tone for the day. The things that I do in the first hour prepare the mind and set me up for the entire day. During the first half an hour or so of the day, I spend time to reflect on my present and future plans and goals.
There are some things that everyone can do on daily basis during that quiet time in the morning. Every time you write your goals again, you write them as if they already happened. This way you could write "I have made X amount of dollars"; "I have accomplished X"; "I weigh a certain number of pounds." I have found that this exercise of writing and rewriting your goals everyday is one of the most powerful things I ever learned. It keeps me focused and keeps me in the positive mind set throughout the day.
Everyone's life will start to take off at such a speed that they will have to put on your seatbelt. Everything is about building up and developing belief system until you finally reach the point where you are absolutely convinced that nothing can stop you from achieving what you set out to achieve.
No one starts out with this kind of an attitude, I did not. But I developed it using the law of attraction. Everything counts. No efforts are ever lost. Every accomplishment is the result of many small accompishments which go often unrecognized, but they are all attracted to you. The greatest challenge of all is for anyone to concentrate their thinking single-mindedly on the goal. Through this anyone can inevitably draw into their life the people, circumstances and opportunities they need to achieve their goals.
I have come to a conclusion that as you master yourself and your thoughts, you will start attracting ideas and opportunities to your life to help you to become wealthy and successful. It's worked for me and for many successful people I know. It will work for you if you'll begin today, now, this very minute, to think and talk about your dreams and goals as though they were already a reality. You will change you life once you change your thinking. You will put yourself firmly on the road to success and independence.
I am not saying that every wish, every thought will be granted to you. But this process will change the outlook you have on the world, on your circumstance and on your life. This will start attracting the positive into your life.
Here are two things I do every single day to keep my mind focused on my success goals:
First, I get up every morning a little bit earlier and plan my day in advance. I take some time to think about my goals and how I can best achieve them. This sets the tone for the whole day.
Second, I reflect on the valuable lessons I am learning each day as I work toward my goals. I need to be prepared to correct my course and adjust my actions. I need to be absolutely convinced that I am moving rapidly toward my goals, no matter what happens temporarily on the outside. I just need to feed my mind with positive ideas!
I would like to leave you today with one of my favourite quotes by Michelangelo: "The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it."
Author: Helena Syptak
Half Ways to Make New Years Goals Stick
Don't get me wrong, I love achieving things that are important to me. Without goals, I couldn't have gotten this far. But I needed a new way of looking at goals that didn't make me tired already. So, I came up with my four and a half ways to make my goals stick and be fun. Use them for yourself and make 2007 your best year yet!
1. KNOW WHAT GOALS STAND FOR: Go Out And Love Someone/Something!
That's right, LOVE!! Achieving stuff isn't worth your time and energy if you're not passionate about it. We desperately need to get excited again about our careers, our businesses, and our lives. If you're not, forget any other goals; they really don't matter. Figure out what it is that you really care enough about to get up in the morning.
2. DREAM BIG
Everyone I know, I mean EVERYONE I know, is turning one year older this year. So, I say dream BIG, allow yourself to imagine what you'd really like to be true about your life. Because one day time's up and you can't dream at all.
Why the heck not dream big? If not now, when? If not you, who? What other rhetorical question do you need? As women we constantly hear that small is beautiful. Forgetaboutit! BIG is BEST!
3. MAKE GOALS FUN & EASY TO REMEMBER
For example, if your goal is to "lose weight", phrase it another way that's positive, fun and memorable. Try "become a sultry goddess" or "be a calendar girl". How can you not grin when you say those words?! You're already getting your smile into shape!
Even business goals can be put into fun terms if you allow yourself to loosen up and play a little. One of my goals this year is to continue to expose even more women to the Bodacious Way. (Psst! You can help me by sharing this with a bodacious friend!} So, you know how I've phrased this goal? "More Cleavage!" Get it, more exposure. I laugh every time I say it! And, believe me, I'm not forgetting it!
4. WRITE ‘EM DOWN
Ok, you've heard this a bazillion times. The fact is when you write something down your brain registers it. To make goals stick even more I suggest that you ADD IMAGES to your words because that's what the brains remember even better. Cut a picture out of magazine, put up a photo of yourself that reminds you of your best self, or draw a funny stick figure. I know it sounds a little goofy, but just DO IT! You'll be glad.
4 and a Half. THRIVE ON SHIFT & CHANGE
The one big problem with goals is that they can easily be a setup for feeling like a failure. You dreamed big and wrote down fun, easy to remember goals, but if you don't see yourself achieving them you're more bummed than if you didn't set any goals at all!
My solution: We need to set goals and focus our efforts, but we also need not be rigidly attached to them. What I mean that as you're taking actions to fulfill your goals, be alert and open to what's happening in and around you. Be open to new, better ways to get from Point A to Point B. You may even realize in the process that the goal itself needs to be changed. If so, you're not a failure. The first goal was simply a way to get you to the new goal. You may not have realized that otherwise.
Author: HARNEET KAUR
1. KNOW WHAT GOALS STAND FOR: Go Out And Love Someone/Something!
That's right, LOVE!! Achieving stuff isn't worth your time and energy if you're not passionate about it. We desperately need to get excited again about our careers, our businesses, and our lives. If you're not, forget any other goals; they really don't matter. Figure out what it is that you really care enough about to get up in the morning.
2. DREAM BIG
Everyone I know, I mean EVERYONE I know, is turning one year older this year. So, I say dream BIG, allow yourself to imagine what you'd really like to be true about your life. Because one day time's up and you can't dream at all.
Why the heck not dream big? If not now, when? If not you, who? What other rhetorical question do you need? As women we constantly hear that small is beautiful. Forgetaboutit! BIG is BEST!
3. MAKE GOALS FUN & EASY TO REMEMBER
For example, if your goal is to "lose weight", phrase it another way that's positive, fun and memorable. Try "become a sultry goddess" or "be a calendar girl". How can you not grin when you say those words?! You're already getting your smile into shape!
Even business goals can be put into fun terms if you allow yourself to loosen up and play a little. One of my goals this year is to continue to expose even more women to the Bodacious Way. (Psst! You can help me by sharing this with a bodacious friend!} So, you know how I've phrased this goal? "More Cleavage!" Get it, more exposure. I laugh every time I say it! And, believe me, I'm not forgetting it!
4. WRITE ‘EM DOWN
Ok, you've heard this a bazillion times. The fact is when you write something down your brain registers it. To make goals stick even more I suggest that you ADD IMAGES to your words because that's what the brains remember even better. Cut a picture out of magazine, put up a photo of yourself that reminds you of your best self, or draw a funny stick figure. I know it sounds a little goofy, but just DO IT! You'll be glad.
4 and a Half. THRIVE ON SHIFT & CHANGE
The one big problem with goals is that they can easily be a setup for feeling like a failure. You dreamed big and wrote down fun, easy to remember goals, but if you don't see yourself achieving them you're more bummed than if you didn't set any goals at all!
My solution: We need to set goals and focus our efforts, but we also need not be rigidly attached to them. What I mean that as you're taking actions to fulfill your goals, be alert and open to what's happening in and around you. Be open to new, better ways to get from Point A to Point B. You may even realize in the process that the goal itself needs to be changed. If so, you're not a failure. The first goal was simply a way to get you to the new goal. You may not have realized that otherwise.
Author: HARNEET KAUR
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Love + Dating, Tips For Men ^^ Show a Woman That You Care ^^
Have a special someone in mind? Wish to strengthen a friendship or relationship? Follow these simple steps to show a woman that you care for her. So try to do this : 1. Pay attention to her. Every time she is speaking to you, make an effort to look her in the eyes and understand what she is saying. If you do not understand, tell her. This will show her that you are listening and would like to hear what she has to say. 2. Be trustworthy. Prove yourself to her daily. If you give her your word that you will be there for her, follow through. How can anyone care for someone they lie to? 3. Respect her mind, body, and soul. She is a different individual. There are many paths of life and hers may be differing from yours. Accept her and cherish her for who she is. 4. Perform random acts of kindness. Be creative. Call her when you guys are not together and tell her that you are thinking about her. Paste a note on her mirror telling her that you love her. A picture is worth a thousand words, paint her a watercolor. Leave her a flower and a sincere note. 5. Spend quality time with her. Turning off the T.V., grabbing a blanket, and lying with her beneath the stars can mean more than expensive jewelry. 6. Let her know exactly how you feel. Look within. Exactly what does this woman mean to you? Write it down. Give it to her. 7. When you are away, whether it be a business trip, or a vacation with the guys, check in with her. It's just polite! Let her know that although you're having fun, she has crossed your mind. 8. Never lose contact for a unreasonable time. If you have not seen her for a few days, let her know you are thinking about her, Girls love this. Don't for get to remember this : * Women are different from men,we all know that. While a man's focus may be on the physical aspects of a relationship, showing a woman that you respect and care for the sensual things will go a very long way. * Never lie to her. Lying to a woman is a sure way to lose her respect. * Step in and help her without being asked. Show her that you are there for her. * Guys are actually very sensitive when it comes down to some things, so some of this may just be common sense. * Read an ebook called "100 Ways to Show Your Love & Affection" by Gloria D. Heffner gives great ideas to add or keep the romance, love & affection in a relationship. The ideas can be tailored to your or your partner's personality(ies). * Remember women multi-task (i.e. balancing work and family) * Turn off the TV and turn on the romance!
Thursday, September 10, 2009
[Tips For Men] Show a Woman That You Care
Have a special someone in mind? Wish to strengthen a friendship or relationship? Follow these simple steps to show a woman that you care for her. So try to do this : 1. Pay attention to her. Every time she is speaking to you, make an effort to look her in the eyes and understand what she is saying. If you do not understand, tell her. This will show her that you are listening and would like to hear what she has to say. 2. Be trustworthy. Prove yourself to her daily. If you give her your word that you will be there for her, follow through. How can anyone care for someone they lie to? 3. Respect her mind, body, and soul. She is a different individual. There are many paths of life and hers may be differing from yours. Accept her and cherish her for who she is. 4. Perform random acts of kindness. Be creative. Call her when you guys are not together and tell her that you are thinking about her. Paste a note on her mirror telling her that you love her. A picture is worth a thousand words, paint her a watercolor. Leave her a flower and a sincere note. 5. Spend quality time with her. Turning off the T.V., grabbing a blanket, and lying with her beneath the stars can mean more than expensive jewelry. 6. Let her know exactly how you feel. Look within. Exactly what does this woman mean to you? Write it down. Give it to her. 7. When you are away, whether it be a business trip, or a vacation with the guys, check in with her. It's just polite! Let her know that although you're having fun, she has crossed your mind. 8. Never lose contact for a unreasonable time. If you have not seen her for a few days, let her know you are thinking about her, Girls love this. Don't for get to remember this : * Women are different from men,we all know that. While a man's focus may be on the physical aspects of a relationship, showing a woman that you respect and care for the sensual things will go a very long way. * Never lie to her. Lying to a woman is a sure way to lose her respect. * Step in and help her without being asked. Show her that you are there for her. * Guys are actually very sensitive when it comes down to some things, so some of this may just be common sense. * Read an ebook called "100 Ways to Show Your Love & Affection" by Gloria D. Heffner gives great ideas to add or keep the romance, love & affection in a relationship. The ideas can be tailored to your or your partner's personality(ies). * Remember women multi-task (i.e. balancing work and family) * Turn off the TV and turn on the romance! At last, a Step-By-Step Guidebook for men on how to meet, date, and attract beautiful women. Even if you're fat, bad, or ugly! Don't you ever dare just sit around with self-pity. Take action now : http://tinyurl.com/showwomenyoucare 2009 This inspiring message delivered by Inspiration Inbox contact us : info@inspiration-inbox.com http://www.inspiration-inbox.com (English) http://id.inspiration-inbox.com (Bahasa Indonesia)
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Love + Dating, Tips For Women ** How To Know If He Is Serious About You
10 signs that say he is serious about you! 1) He seeks your opinion in everything from minor decisions to major ones It could be something as simple as buying a tie to match his shirt. Or major ones like what car he should buy. It shows that he values your opinions and thinks that you have great judgement and insight as well. 2) He wants you to meet his family, friends and everybody else He is serious in making you part of his social circle and does not see you as just another casual date when he wants you to meet his family. 3) He spends a lot of time together with you If he is not genuinely interested in you, would he spend time with you rather than go for his favourite soccer match with his buddies 4) He does not show signs that he is terrified when you mention something happening in a year or two It shows that he is serious about the relationship he has with you. He can see himself being with you even two years later. 5) He calls you many times a day, but does not admit he misses you When he calls you, he may find an excuse to do so, like asking you what you are doing currently, finding out what you have eaten for dinner, but never saying the words “I miss hearing your voice, that’s why I called”. 6) He remembers your favourite food and brings it to you by surprise You probably casually mentioned that you love the brownie from that café only once, but he remembered and brought it to you without you asking for it. If he is not serious about you, would he have remembered what you say to such detail? 7) He lets you choose the restaurants you want to go and the movies you want to watch Even if he does not like spicy stuff, but you love curry to bits, he will accompany you and even treat you to a meal at a nice Indian restaurant. How sweet can it get? If he does not treat you seriously, why would he bother to cater to you? 8) He can’t wait to tell you what happened in the day Every night he updates you with how he spent his day, without you asking first. He finds it a joy sharing these intimate details with you. When he hears a new joke, he can’t wait to call you immediately and make you laugh. 9) He is willing to share details of his finances with you The topic of finances can be quite sensitive and is usually not something that is openly shared, even with friends. If he is willing to tell you, he probably treats you more than a casual friend! 10) He rushes to your side upon hearing that you are sick Even if it is really late at night and he has an important meeting the next morning, he is willing to come and bring you to the doctor. Only a guy who is serious about you will be that worried! Well, if you find all these signs all too familiar, it is most likely true that he is serious about you and your relationship. Although he may not have said the three magic words to you yet and have not officially asked you to be his gal, you can be quite assured that he really cares about you. If you like him as well, you can be sure that it will be reciprocated. Just don’t take too long to admit how you both feel about each other! 2009 This inspiring message delivered by Inspiration Inbox contact us : info@inspiration-inbox.com http://www.inspiration-inbox.com (English) http://id.inspiration-inbox.com (Bahasa Indonesia)
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Inspiring Article - Five Awesome and Five Awful Conversation Topics
“So, what should I talk about?” When it comes to conversations I think this is one question we have asked both others and ourselves many, many times. Often in our heads, when already in a conversation, with an awkward silence looming and while trying to scramble for something to say. :) That’s not an entirely bad place to be though. Pauses in conversations are natural and it’s good to get used to the social pressure of a conversation gone quiet. However, if you too often run into silences, if they have a tendency to go on for a little bit too long then it’s always good to have few pointers stored at the back of your mind. Here are 5 great things to talk about. And a little bit further down, 5 things you should probably try to avoid talking about. 1. The person you are talking to For many the favourite subject to talk about is themselves. Be curious about people and who they are. As Dale Carnegie said: “You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.” Figure out what the other person does besides work. What s/he really likes, passions and things that brings out the enthusiasm. Ask and use open-ended questions so s/he can’t just answer with a one-word answer. If you just get hmms and vague answers out of open-ended questions try leading questions. And try to actually listen instead of just waiting for you turn to talk. Focus outward instead of inward to improve a conversation. Talk about what the other person really likes. It generally makes for more fun and compelling conversations to hear and see the enthusiastic and passionate part of a person than if you both stick to talking about the weather and work. And don’t worry about getting stuck in listening-mode. Most people will be glad to reciprocate and be interested in you if you are interested in them. 2. Your surroundings It’s easy to become too focused on just one thing in a conversation. Widen your focus a bit, look around. There is always interesting stuff in your surroundings to start a conversation about. For example, at a party or a dinner in someone’s house it might be the fishes in the aquarium, the record collection, books and movies on the shelves, some cool piece of clothing someone is wearing and so on. 3. The news and water cooler topics Keep an eye on the papers, there is almost always something interesting there to bring up in a conversation. Fascinating or funny topics are always good. Bringing up death, misery and controversial topics might not always be a great idea. Besides the news there are always water cooler-topics to discuss. These often make for fun discussion. Such topics might be the latest episode of Lost or Prison Break, something big and brand new (in Sweden a big water cooler topic a while back was our first astronaut in space; Christer Fuglesang), which of the summer blockbusters that are actually good or some new, spectacular band. It might be useful to quickly browse social bookmarking-sites like Digg and Reddit to find some of the things everyone seems to be talking about right now. And to discover a few fascinating new stories or trends. 4. Likes and dislikes A classic. People always like to discuss their likes and dislikes. Some examples: o Favourite songs/albums. o Favourite movies/TV-shows. o The nastiest tasting piece of candy/food you have eaten. o Best/worst GTD software. o The best vacation ever vs. the worst one. o The best or worst job/boss/co-worker you’ve ever had. 5. Relatable emotions and experiences This topic might seem a little fuzzy. In a way, it’s another way to look at some of the above topics. I think it’s a useful perspective to keep in mind though. What I mean by this is what you share in the conversation is not the facts. What you share are experiences and emotions. The underlying excitement and the emotions that we all share regardless what we do. One example might be how you discover that the other person loves travelling. So you ask: what is it about travelling that you like so much? S/he might say the excitement of discovering something new, something s/he’s never seen before. And maybe you have similar feelings about travelling too. So you might say something like: Yeah, I know, it´s great when you have that fresh, totally new experience. But you don´t have to be a enthusiastic traveller to relate. Perhaps you love books or movies. And then you can relate to how each time you discover and new author or great movie it´s like travelling into a totally new and exciting world where you never know what you will find. So you can share similar feelings and experiences even though you might not seem similar as people. You may seem very different to one another, live different lives, but there are often connections to be made between you. There are several powerful motivators and needs behind and in conversations and communication. One is to boost one’s ego. Something that can be done, for example, by using topic #1. Another is the feeling of connecting and sharing. Something you can do by using topic. Five Potentially Awful Topics to Talk About So, what topics should you avoid? None, really. But some topics are perhaps are only suited for some conversations. Maybe with close friends or family. Some topics can get out of hand. You might need to limit the amount of time you talk about them. When people’s eyes are starting to glaze over, when people are starting to look around in the room and stop listening it’s time to change the subject. Don’t suck the fun and positive energy of conversations. Think before you talk when the subjects below are on your mind. 1. Illness No-one wants to hear too much about illness and bad health. It’s a downer. And people in general don’t want to reflect too much on things like: “Hmm, I wonder when I’ll get sick and how that will be”. It can put anyone in a sad and negative emotional state. 2. Your crappy boss, job etc It’s no fun hearing someone harp on and on about how unfair their boss is or how much their job suck. Complaining becomes draining to listen to rather quickly. Try to keep your complaining down or if you can just stop it all together. 3. Your boring job If it’s a fascinating job then it might be interesting to talk about. If you’re enthusiastic about your job and really love then it can be fascinating to talk about it. If it’s just a job you’re not too fond of or a boring one try to limit the time you talk about it. If you like it but people don’t seem to be interested either drop it or find a way to improve how you talk about your job. No one wants to listen for too long to a topic they have no interest in. 4. Hard to relate to hobbies and similar subjects Well, actually getting technical and talking too much about the content of the hobby rather than what excites you about it. Try to avoid technical jargon, acronyms and details that only you and other enthusiasts understand. Try to keep it simple and understandable instead. Try to relate what excites you about your bicycling or recycling instead of getting lost in facts and details. 5. Serial killers and other creepy subjects An obvious one. Just like talking about illness talking about Jeffrey Dahmer, stalkers and similar subjects can make people really uncomfortable. Continue Reading.. to view full article with photos : http://www.inspiration-inbox.com/2009/08/five-awesome-and-five-awful.html
Monday, September 7, 2009
60 things girls need to understand about guys!- Dating & Relationships
1. Guys hate sluts even though they have sex with them! 2. "Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" ~ two phrases guys open with to stop from stammering on the phone. 3. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about. 4. Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're going to say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes. 5. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile when they’re attracted to them 6. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him. 7. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're going for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method. 8. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to. 9. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved. 10. Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend. 11. Guys get jealous easily. 12. Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think. 13. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out. 14. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like. 15. Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway. 16. Girls are guys' weaknesses. 17. Guys are very open about themselves. 18. It's good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long. 19. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend. 20. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice. 21. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you. 22. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships. 23. Guys will brag about anything. 24. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful. If a guy uses that, he likes you a whole hell of a lot. 25. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant. 26. Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused. 27. Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships. 28. Try to be as straightforward as possible. 29. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be mature and grown up. 30. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl. 31. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key. 32. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience. 33. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped. 34. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside. 35. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that. 36. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me." 37. Guys don't really have final decisions. 38. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up. 39. If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you. 40. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something. 41. Guys like femininity not feebleness. 42. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do. 43. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes. 44. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily. 45. Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much. 46. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys. 47. Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more. 48. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them. 49. A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day. 50. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it. 51. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesn’t mean he represents ALL of us. 52. We don't like girls who are too skinny. 53. We love it when girls talk about there ass. 54. Always make sure you know what kind of stuff your getting into before making out with a guy , like whether it's a one time deal or not . 55. Believe it or not shy guys are the most easiest to talk to. It may not seem right but trust me they will start opening up like books after you just ask them questions about their lives and unnoticeable tell them about yours. 56. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually. 57. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs. 58. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it, it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts. 59. Guys will test the waters to see how far they can get with you. Even if he doesn't intend to it will happen. Know how far it is you want to let him go and he will respect that after you let him know a couple times. 60. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
37 Ways to Make a Difference to Yourself and Others
Do you want to download Reader's digest June 2009 for free? Subscribe Inspiration Inbox by email now. Once your subscription is active, we gonna send it manually to your inbox within 48 hours. click : http://tinyurl.com/subscribe-ib ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ "Making a difference" is not just a scheduled event or activity, but a moment any time when a person finds it in his/her heart to do something good, to care or to share, or to make a voluntary contribution to another individual, a community, or our society. When we consciously give or do whatever we can to help maintain the wellness of individuals and families in our communities, these acts also contribute to the best quality of life of everyone in our society. Let us continue to gather more bright ideas for our own lives and our surroundings. Let's now begin to count the ways and put them into action. The TIME has come... We say 'No more to gloom and doom!' It is time to rise to our true potential... to experience total wellness in every area of our lives, contributing to solutions to maintain the quality of life we enjoy in our communities. It is time for each of us to care more, to shine, and to carry the light of HOPE everywhere! No one individual or one group, not even our government, can do it alone! This is the time that we need each other most, to work together, joining our hands together in making a difference. FOR YOURSELF: 1. Smile more often! Be amazed of how many will be happy to smile back at you. Besides, this is the best facial exercise you can make to delay aging signs -- so smile! 2. Eat right! Boost your immune system by eating more natural food, like fresh fruits and vegetables. This alone can significantly reduce your weight and health concerns. 3. Exercise regularly. The reason is not just to lose weight, but it's a great habit to maintain good health by improved circulation, elimination of body toxins, etc. 4. Drink water more than 'colored drinks' for your health. Water has no sugar or additives. 5. Read and learn more. Devote time and money for self-improvement, the best investment you can make that truly pays off. 6. Love, care, give, and share more. This practice is the very purpose of your life. 7. Keep believing. Pray. Nurture your spirit. This won't cost you any, but help or answer to your needs can be just a prayer away. FOR THOSE YOU CARE ABOUT: 8. If you love them, then say it and show it! Do not take them for granted. They need both to hear and see you care. 9. Spend more quality time with them. It is what they'll remember most. 10. Visit, write, call those you haven't for a while. FOR OUR SENIORS: 11. Give a helping hand and cheers -- cooking, cleaning, or whatever they are limited to. 12. Give a ride or offer to carpool with them whenever there's a need. 13. Involve them on activities that will continue to stimulate their senses, or they can contribute their gathered wisdom. FOR OUR CHILDREN OR YOUTH: 14. Walk or create programs for youth to benefit them and rally for their good future. 15. Give them more opportunities to explore and develop their natural gifts and talents, express their dreams and goals. 16. Encourage our children more by your words and example. Stay positive! FOR OUR VETERANS: (For the freedom we now enjoy is due to their sacrifices.) 17. Send cards or anything to show you remember and appreciate them. 18. Recognize them and give a smile, a salute, or high-five when you see them around. 19. Support their events and fundraising efforts to help them. FOR OUR HOMELESS CITIZENS: (Just like you and me, they need care and understanding. ) 20. Encourage them by taking time to help them get the help they need/resources to get back on track. 21. Volunteer in your local shelters. There are many ways you can help or contribute. 22. Help create more programs to help them get out of their situation. FOR OUR VOLUNTEERS: (For helping us make things happen.) 23. Big "thank you!" note or anything to show your appreciation of them. 24. Join them and be prepared to do a random act of kindness anytime. 25. How about "volunteers appreciation day" to celebrate them and have a good break? FOR OUR ENVIRONMENT: (We only have one planet, so we must take care of it.) 26. Clean and plant trees with your workmates, neighbors, etc. anywhere permissible. 27. Recycle consciously, not just plastics and papers, but clothes and others you can share. Clean up your closet, garage, or storage for everything that you don't need. Do a yard sale or simply drive to or call local charities for pickup. This is one recycling to meet needs of others. 28. Learn more of what's causing the global warming and contribute to preventions/ solutions. FOR ALL of US: 29. Sing, dance, be happy no matter what. Brighter days are yet to come! 30. Speak the truth. Seeking the truth can set someone free. 31. Notice and say something good or positive to someone, and mean it. 32. Learn survival techniques. Always be prepared for any emergency. 33. Accept yourself. You are gifted and blessed more than you know. 34. Be forgiving and understanding as you seek forgiveness and understanding. 35. Learn how to budget or how to manage your money. Spend only on needs and the money that you actually have. 36. Be involved in your community in making good things happen! 37. Will you support me on my personal goal to make a difference (i.e., to reach at least three million people everywhere to bring HOPE and more OPPORTUNITIES for people to live better lives)? ***** by Anolia Orfrecio Facun About the Author: "Make a Difference" Community coordinator Anolia "Leah" Orfrecio Facun is a former registered nurse, public educator, entrepreneur, community health advocate, and volunteer. Over the past three decades, she has received numerous awards and recognitions from her work in business and the community. In "Yes! The Secrets Work!" Leah shares the wisdom gleaned from her journey of surviving to her destination of thriving, so you too can reach the success, health, and happiness right around the corner. You can visit and meet her at http://www.YesTheSe cretsWork.com
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Health-- Watch Out! Your Computer Can Kill You!
Here are some of the most prominent computer related health ailments:
Carpal Tunnel Syndrome (CTS): Common actions like mouse clicks that need constant wrist and index finger movements and typing that requires repetitive finger movement, are most likely to strain tendons and ligaments, leading to microscopic tearing, pain and swelling. The swelling pinches the median nerve that runs through the narrow carpal tunnel at the wrist, causing CTS. Soreness, numbness, a tingling feeling and wrist pain are other symptoms. CTS is not something which goes away after popping a few pills. The healing process for CTS is usually long and frustrating, depending on how serious the condition is.
Repetitive Strain Injuries (RSI): They occur from repeated physical movements which cause damage to tendons, nerves, muscles and other soft tissues. RSIs are on the rise with increased computer use, faulty typing techniques, poor body posture and positions. Lack of adequate rest between work and excessive use of force while using the mouse or the keyboard can lead to RSIs. The symptoms of RSI are tightness, discomfort, stiffness, burning in the hands, wrist, fingers, forearms and elbows. Tingling, coldness and numbness of the hands with loss of strength and lack of co-ordination occurs. There is pain in the upper back, shoulders and neck and a need to massage them.
Computer Vision Syndrome: There is no scientific evidence to indicate that regular use of computer threatens eye health or results in permanent visual damage. Computer vision syndrome is the complex of eye and vision problems related to near work which are experienced during computer use. The symptoms consist of fatigue, headache, dry eyes, eye strain, blurred vision, neck pain, backache, altered colour perception, double vision, etc. People who use computers for more than two hours a day can develop computer vision syndrome. Predisposing conditions like uncorrected or improperly corrected refractive errors, binocular dysfunctions and focussing deficiencies may exacerbate the problem. Poor lighting, inadequate viewing distance, improperly designed workstation, poor contrast, glare and reflection all contribute to computer vision syndrome.
Depression: A recent study has found a high degree of co-relation between the time spent online and an increased incidence of depression. It is believed that these individuals lead an unfulfilled social life, which leads to further loneliness and depression.
Computer Or Cyber Addiction: This is a problem very similar to pathological gambling or compulsive shopping. The symptoms of computer addiction are quite specific. The psychological symptoms are: having a sense of well-being or euphoria while at the computer, inability to stop the activity and craving for more time at the computer, neglect of family and friends, lying to employers and family about activities, feeling empty, depressed or irritable when not at the computer.
It's even possible to develop eczema on the tips of your thumb and fingers if you excessively rub these parts against your mouse pad, a malady known as mouse fingers. This term also refers to the pain that shoots through your hand when you move your index and middle finger after a too-lengthy mouse session.
It's not possible that you stop using a computer, but you can learn how to use it right. Many of the ill-effects of computer use can be lessened or avoided altogether by utilising correct typing technique and posture, ensuring correct set up of equipment and good work habits.
Monitor: Place the computer monitor and keyboard directly in front of you so as to avoid twisting your neck. Monitor should be 20-24 inches away from the eyes and the height of the monitor should be 5-15 inches below horizontal line of sight. The mouse and keyboard should be at the same height. Choose a monitor with good resolution for clarity of characters on the screen. The screen refresh rate should be least 60 Hz to eliminate screen flicker. Dark letters on a light background should be used to reduce eyestrain. Brightness and contrast should be adjusted.
Keyboard: Don't bang the keys while typing. Use a light touch instead. Avoid bending your wrists up and down while typing. Use both hands when typing combinations like 'Shift' or 'Ctrl' with other keys. Don't rest your wrists on the keyboard while typing. Keep hands freely above, with the keyboard tiled downward. The keyboard should be placed at approximately elbow height with the surface at a comfortable angle. The hands and wrists should be held in a neutral position when typing. The wrists should be straight and not bend upwards, downwards or sideways. The shoulders should be relaxed, the upper arms should hang comfortable down along the sides of the body and the elbows should not be cocked out away from the body.
Mouse: The mouse should be placed in an easy reach zone so that the shoulders and upper arms can be relaxed and close to the body while operating the mouse. Keep the wrist and hand in a neutral position, never bent. Use as little force as possible when clicking or dragging. Check mouse settings like click speed to see if you're really comfortable with it. If you scroll long Web pages a lot, a scroll mouse will reduce strain on your wrist. Use a good mouse pad with a smooth surface that encourages accurate mouse tracking. Avoid lifting or shuffling the mouse repeatedly.
Desk Configuration: If the screen is placed off to one side, the keyboard should still be positioned centrally to avoid twisting the torso, often if the screen is off to one side, the user will support one elbow on the desk putting strain in the muscles of the back. Have a set of drawers that prevent sideways movement. The L shaped desk layout allows more space and freedom of movement if writing and keyboard activity is required but when two desks are butted onto each other, one set of drawers can restrict movement. The set of drawers restricting movement can be removed with a screwdriver. Ideally desks should be purchased without drawers and then modular drawer units can be placed in convenient locations.
Posture: You should be able to view the computer screen comfortably with your head in a relaxed, neutral position. Good posture and support in the lower back are also important to avoid muscle strain or pain in the back.
Exercise: Engage in a regular exercise programme, with the advice of your doctor. Eat a healthy diet. Drink lots of water to keep joints and tendons lubricated. Get plenty of rest. Explore ways to relieve stress, such as meditation or massage in addition to exercise. Briskly rub your hands and palms together for 5 to 10 seconds, until they are warm. Cup the warmed palm over your closed eyes. Relax your brow. Breathe regularly and easily.
Anyone in a sedentary job should stand up, move about, or exercise their arms, legs, back, neck and shoulders frequently. The remedy lies in regular exercise for back and neck muscles before the start of work or in the morning for the day-long work. The exercise is a must to give you a good posture at work because this is the best food for the body. The back muscles should support your back and neck. The exercise for whole back is spinal extension exercise. If you lie on your bed with face down or in prone position, keep limbs on the sides of your body, slowly raise your head and shoulders, stay for a moment and go back to your position. Repeat the action at least 20 times. Instead of playing computer games, play physical games to keep fit.
Vision: Have your vision checked frequently. If you wear corrective lenses inquire about lenses that have a focal distance designed for working at a computer. Contact lens users should blink frequently and use eye moisturising drops to avoid dry eye syndrome. Increase the font size. Reduce glare by using glare reduction filters and hoods. Spectacles with anti-reflection coating can be used. Roughly every 15 minutes, a short break should be taken to look away from the computer screen and around the room while making a conscious effort to blink several times.
Room Temperature: Keep your office temperature at a comfortable level. Keep office noise at a level that is not distracting. Reduce exposure to electromagnetic radiation by placing workstations more than 4 feet from the backs of other workstations and moving copiers and laser printers away from workstation areas.
The Work Station: The elements of a good work station setup include - a good adjustable chair with firm support, a good seat cushioning with a waterfall front edge, pneumatic seat height adjustability, swivel seat, five legs with casters. The seat should provide firm support to the lumbar region of the back and should accommodate a slightly backward lean. The chair's adjustment controls should be easy to operate and to reach. If the chair height is too high at the lowest adjustment, a footrest can be used.
20/20/20 exercise: Take a short break of 20 seconds approximately every 20 minutes and look at an object more than 20 feet away.
Use Proper Lighting: Eyestrain is often caused by excessively bright light coming in from outside and excessively bright light inside. When you use a computer, the ambient lighting should be about half that used in most offices. Eliminate exterior light by closing drapes, shades, or blinds. Reduce interior lighting by using fewer light bulbs or fluorescent tubes, or use lower intensity bulbs and tubes. If possible, position your monitor so that windows are to the side of it, instead of in front or back.
Computer-related health problems are becoming more and more common as technology advances. Surely precautions need to be taken; otherwise computers won't always make our lives any easier! No amount of ergonomic gizmos will make much of a difference if you don't take a break from your computer. Try and cut down the time you spend at your PC
Carpal Tunnel Syndrome (CTS): Common actions like mouse clicks that need constant wrist and index finger movements and typing that requires repetitive finger movement, are most likely to strain tendons and ligaments, leading to microscopic tearing, pain and swelling. The swelling pinches the median nerve that runs through the narrow carpal tunnel at the wrist, causing CTS. Soreness, numbness, a tingling feeling and wrist pain are other symptoms. CTS is not something which goes away after popping a few pills. The healing process for CTS is usually long and frustrating, depending on how serious the condition is.
Repetitive Strain Injuries (RSI): They occur from repeated physical movements which cause damage to tendons, nerves, muscles and other soft tissues. RSIs are on the rise with increased computer use, faulty typing techniques, poor body posture and positions. Lack of adequate rest between work and excessive use of force while using the mouse or the keyboard can lead to RSIs. The symptoms of RSI are tightness, discomfort, stiffness, burning in the hands, wrist, fingers, forearms and elbows. Tingling, coldness and numbness of the hands with loss of strength and lack of co-ordination occurs. There is pain in the upper back, shoulders and neck and a need to massage them.
Computer Vision Syndrome: There is no scientific evidence to indicate that regular use of computer threatens eye health or results in permanent visual damage. Computer vision syndrome is the complex of eye and vision problems related to near work which are experienced during computer use. The symptoms consist of fatigue, headache, dry eyes, eye strain, blurred vision, neck pain, backache, altered colour perception, double vision, etc. People who use computers for more than two hours a day can develop computer vision syndrome. Predisposing conditions like uncorrected or improperly corrected refractive errors, binocular dysfunctions and focussing deficiencies may exacerbate the problem. Poor lighting, inadequate viewing distance, improperly designed workstation, poor contrast, glare and reflection all contribute to computer vision syndrome.
Depression: A recent study has found a high degree of co-relation between the time spent online and an increased incidence of depression. It is believed that these individuals lead an unfulfilled social life, which leads to further loneliness and depression.
Computer Or Cyber Addiction: This is a problem very similar to pathological gambling or compulsive shopping. The symptoms of computer addiction are quite specific. The psychological symptoms are: having a sense of well-being or euphoria while at the computer, inability to stop the activity and craving for more time at the computer, neglect of family and friends, lying to employers and family about activities, feeling empty, depressed or irritable when not at the computer.
It's even possible to develop eczema on the tips of your thumb and fingers if you excessively rub these parts against your mouse pad, a malady known as mouse fingers. This term also refers to the pain that shoots through your hand when you move your index and middle finger after a too-lengthy mouse session.
It's not possible that you stop using a computer, but you can learn how to use it right. Many of the ill-effects of computer use can be lessened or avoided altogether by utilising correct typing technique and posture, ensuring correct set up of equipment and good work habits.
Monitor: Place the computer monitor and keyboard directly in front of you so as to avoid twisting your neck. Monitor should be 20-24 inches away from the eyes and the height of the monitor should be 5-15 inches below horizontal line of sight. The mouse and keyboard should be at the same height. Choose a monitor with good resolution for clarity of characters on the screen. The screen refresh rate should be least 60 Hz to eliminate screen flicker. Dark letters on a light background should be used to reduce eyestrain. Brightness and contrast should be adjusted.
Keyboard: Don't bang the keys while typing. Use a light touch instead. Avoid bending your wrists up and down while typing. Use both hands when typing combinations like 'Shift' or 'Ctrl' with other keys. Don't rest your wrists on the keyboard while typing. Keep hands freely above, with the keyboard tiled downward. The keyboard should be placed at approximately elbow height with the surface at a comfortable angle. The hands and wrists should be held in a neutral position when typing. The wrists should be straight and not bend upwards, downwards or sideways. The shoulders should be relaxed, the upper arms should hang comfortable down along the sides of the body and the elbows should not be cocked out away from the body.
Mouse: The mouse should be placed in an easy reach zone so that the shoulders and upper arms can be relaxed and close to the body while operating the mouse. Keep the wrist and hand in a neutral position, never bent. Use as little force as possible when clicking or dragging. Check mouse settings like click speed to see if you're really comfortable with it. If you scroll long Web pages a lot, a scroll mouse will reduce strain on your wrist. Use a good mouse pad with a smooth surface that encourages accurate mouse tracking. Avoid lifting or shuffling the mouse repeatedly.
Desk Configuration: If the screen is placed off to one side, the keyboard should still be positioned centrally to avoid twisting the torso, often if the screen is off to one side, the user will support one elbow on the desk putting strain in the muscles of the back. Have a set of drawers that prevent sideways movement. The L shaped desk layout allows more space and freedom of movement if writing and keyboard activity is required but when two desks are butted onto each other, one set of drawers can restrict movement. The set of drawers restricting movement can be removed with a screwdriver. Ideally desks should be purchased without drawers and then modular drawer units can be placed in convenient locations.
Posture: You should be able to view the computer screen comfortably with your head in a relaxed, neutral position. Good posture and support in the lower back are also important to avoid muscle strain or pain in the back.
Exercise: Engage in a regular exercise programme, with the advice of your doctor. Eat a healthy diet. Drink lots of water to keep joints and tendons lubricated. Get plenty of rest. Explore ways to relieve stress, such as meditation or massage in addition to exercise. Briskly rub your hands and palms together for 5 to 10 seconds, until they are warm. Cup the warmed palm over your closed eyes. Relax your brow. Breathe regularly and easily.
Anyone in a sedentary job should stand up, move about, or exercise their arms, legs, back, neck and shoulders frequently. The remedy lies in regular exercise for back and neck muscles before the start of work or in the morning for the day-long work. The exercise is a must to give you a good posture at work because this is the best food for the body. The back muscles should support your back and neck. The exercise for whole back is spinal extension exercise. If you lie on your bed with face down or in prone position, keep limbs on the sides of your body, slowly raise your head and shoulders, stay for a moment and go back to your position. Repeat the action at least 20 times. Instead of playing computer games, play physical games to keep fit.
Vision: Have your vision checked frequently. If you wear corrective lenses inquire about lenses that have a focal distance designed for working at a computer. Contact lens users should blink frequently and use eye moisturising drops to avoid dry eye syndrome. Increase the font size. Reduce glare by using glare reduction filters and hoods. Spectacles with anti-reflection coating can be used. Roughly every 15 minutes, a short break should be taken to look away from the computer screen and around the room while making a conscious effort to blink several times.
Room Temperature: Keep your office temperature at a comfortable level. Keep office noise at a level that is not distracting. Reduce exposure to electromagnetic radiation by placing workstations more than 4 feet from the backs of other workstations and moving copiers and laser printers away from workstation areas.
The Work Station: The elements of a good work station setup include - a good adjustable chair with firm support, a good seat cushioning with a waterfall front edge, pneumatic seat height adjustability, swivel seat, five legs with casters. The seat should provide firm support to the lumbar region of the back and should accommodate a slightly backward lean. The chair's adjustment controls should be easy to operate and to reach. If the chair height is too high at the lowest adjustment, a footrest can be used.
20/20/20 exercise: Take a short break of 20 seconds approximately every 20 minutes and look at an object more than 20 feet away.
Use Proper Lighting: Eyestrain is often caused by excessively bright light coming in from outside and excessively bright light inside. When you use a computer, the ambient lighting should be about half that used in most offices. Eliminate exterior light by closing drapes, shades, or blinds. Reduce interior lighting by using fewer light bulbs or fluorescent tubes, or use lower intensity bulbs and tubes. If possible, position your monitor so that windows are to the side of it, instead of in front or back.
Computer-related health problems are becoming more and more common as technology advances. Surely precautions need to be taken; otherwise computers won't always make our lives any easier! No amount of ergonomic gizmos will make much of a difference if you don't take a break from your computer. Try and cut down the time you spend at your PC
Friday, September 4, 2009
Tips For Everyone - 50 Ways to a Better You
1. Take naps. Researchers at Harvard found an hour nap was as beneficial as a full night's sleep. 2. Don't take things personally. It's not raining on you alone. And maybe the waiter's dog just died. 3. Breathe. Holding your breath increases muscle tension. 4. When it's your turn to listen, don't think. Thinking interferes with hearing. 5. Eat only when you're hungry. If you're not hungry, but you're eating anyway, it's not food you're needing. 6. Smile. Especially when you don't feel like it. 7. Smell the flowers. Research shows the fragrance of lavender and lemon, for instance, can lessen depression. 8. Balance your checkbook. It's actually less stressful to know where you stand. 9. Say no when you mean no, and yes when you mean yes. 10. Don't watch the 11p.m. TV news. It won't make for a restful sleep. 11. Schedule fun. Put it on your calendar, or you might forget. 12. If you don't understand, ask. There are no dumb questions. 13. Stretch after exercising every time. If you do, you'll stretch your active years. 14. Don't fly on holidays. 15. Do what you say you're going to do. Even when you only say it to yourself. 16. Do puzzles; play games. Studies show it prevents senility. 17. Put the TV where you won't remember to turn it on. 18. Sit in the sun without sunscreen for 15 minutes a day. Vitamin D keeps bones strong. Sunlight lifts your spirits. 19. Assume the best. Studies show optimists live longer, healthier lives. 20. If you're a shower person, take a bath. It's relaxing. 21. If you're a bath person, take a shower. It's stimulating. 22. Eat only what you love. Not what you like, or what you tolerate, what you love. 23. Ask for a hug. Hugs are proven to lower blood pressure. 24. Strive for imperfection.Trying to be perfect causes stress. Stress lowers immunity. 25. Drink water. It's healthier than any other liquid. 26. Don't smoke. 27. Sit in hard chairs.They make you want to get up and walk around which is good for you. 28. Realize not everyone will like you.Trying to make them is too stressful. Stress raises blood pressure. 29. Be grateful. Because you have lots to be thankful for. 30. Finish eating before you are full. Aim for feeling satisfied. 31. When your worries keep you awake, write them all down. It will ease your mind so you can sleep.Throw the list away in the morning. 32. Never talk yourself out of how you feel. Feeling is healing. 33. Make yourself uncomfortable. Breakthroughs don't come from the status quo. 34. Ask yourself over and over, "What do I want?" How can you get it, if you don't know what it is? 35. Turn the volume down. Musicians will be happy to tell you how they lost their hearing. 36. Call your mother. 37. Clean out your closets, basements, and attics. Then give your stuff to people who need it. 38. Give advice only when asked.That's when it's most meaningful. 39. When you can't say anything nice, nod and smile. When people nod and smile at you, drop the subject. 40. Admit when your wrong. Apologize and make it right. 41. Keep your perspective. Only the end of the world is the end of the world. 42. Now is better than later. Procrastination causes stress. Stress constricts blood vessels. 43. Embrace change. It's constant. Resisting causes stress. Stress, strokes and heart attacks are related. 44. Let your gut be your guide. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. 45. Blame is a way of avoiding responsibility. Just fix the problem. 46. If you can carry on a conversation while exercising, you're not getting aerobic benefit. 47. Master your mind. Study after study shows positive thinkers have fewer health problems. 48. Lies are short-sighted. Honesty wins in the long run. 49. Have compassion. And include yourself. 50. Spend some time each day with your Source. Studies show those with a regular spiritual practice, no matter what type, live healthier longer.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Love + Dating, Reflection, Story - Show Your Love Before It's Too Late
Daniel: I guess we are the left overs in this world.
Jasmine: I think so.. All of my friends have boyfriends & we are the only 2 persons left in this world without any special someone in our lives.
Daniel: Yup! I don't know what to do.
Jasmine: I know! We'll play a game.
Daniel: What game?
Jasmine: I'll be your girlfriend for 30 days & you will be my boyfriend.
Daniel: That's a great plan in fact, I don't have anything to do for the following weeks..
DAY 1:
They watched their first movie together & were both touched in the romantic film.
DAY 4:
They went to the beach & had a picnic... Daniel & Jasmine had their quality time together.
DAY 12:
Daniel invited Jasmine to a circus and they went to a Horror House.. Jasmine was scared and she tried to touch Daniel's hand but by accident she touched someone else's and they both laughed..
DAY 14:
They saw a fortune teller down the road and asked for their future. The fortune teller said: "My darlings, please don't waste the time of your lives... spend your time together happily." Then tears flow from the teller's eyes.
DAY 20:
Jasmine invited Daniel to go to the hill and they saw a meteor... Jasmine mumbled something .
DAY 28:
They rode on a bus and because of the bumpy road, Jasmine gave her first kiss to Daniel by accident.
DAY 29:
11:37 pm
Daniel & Jasmine were sitting in the park where they first decided to play this game ...
Daniel: I'm tired Jasmine... do you want any drinks? I'll buy you one.. I'll just go down the road..
Jasmine: Apple juice would be fine,thanks.
Daniel: Wait for me...
20 minutes later ... a stranger approched Jasmine.
Stranger: Are you a friend of Daniel?
Jasmine: Yes, why? What happened?
Stranger : A reckless drunken driver ran over Daniel & he is critical in the hospital .
11:57pm
The doctor came out from the emergency room & handed out an apple juice & a letter to Jasmine.
Doctor: We found this in Daniel's pocket.
Jasmine read the letter which says:
Jasmine, this past few days, I realized you are really a cute girl & I am falling for you.. your cherished smile, your everything when we played this game.. & before this game ends, I would like you to be my girlfriend for the rest of my life. I love you, Jasmine...
Jasmine crumples the paper & shouted..
"Daniel! I don't want you to die...I love you... Remember that night we saw a meteor? I mumbled something.. I wished that we would be together forever & never end this game. Please don't leave me, Daniel... I love you, you cannot do this to me
Then the clock strikes 12
Daniel's heart stop pumping
THEN IT WAS THE 30th DAY...
Always love your loved ones & show them how you feel before it's too late.. You will never know when they will be gone from your embrace.. If you were given a time to bestow petals of everlasting compassion & love to your love ones, today is the day. Love them while they are still here...
Jasmine: I think so.. All of my friends have boyfriends & we are the only 2 persons left in this world without any special someone in our lives.
Daniel: Yup! I don't know what to do.
Jasmine: I know! We'll play a game.
Daniel: What game?
Jasmine: I'll be your girlfriend for 30 days & you will be my boyfriend.
Daniel: That's a great plan in fact, I don't have anything to do for the following weeks..
DAY 1:
They watched their first movie together & were both touched in the romantic film.
DAY 4:
They went to the beach & had a picnic... Daniel & Jasmine had their quality time together.
DAY 12:
Daniel invited Jasmine to a circus and they went to a Horror House.. Jasmine was scared and she tried to touch Daniel's hand but by accident she touched someone else's and they both laughed..
DAY 14:
They saw a fortune teller down the road and asked for their future. The fortune teller said: "My darlings, please don't waste the time of your lives... spend your time together happily." Then tears flow from the teller's eyes.
DAY 20:
Jasmine invited Daniel to go to the hill and they saw a meteor... Jasmine mumbled something .
DAY 28:
They rode on a bus and because of the bumpy road, Jasmine gave her first kiss to Daniel by accident.
DAY 29:
11:37 pm
Daniel & Jasmine were sitting in the park where they first decided to play this game ...
Daniel: I'm tired Jasmine... do you want any drinks? I'll buy you one.. I'll just go down the road..
Jasmine: Apple juice would be fine,thanks.
Daniel: Wait for me...
20 minutes later ... a stranger approched Jasmine.
Stranger: Are you a friend of Daniel?
Jasmine: Yes, why? What happened?
Stranger : A reckless drunken driver ran over Daniel & he is critical in the hospital .
11:57pm
The doctor came out from the emergency room & handed out an apple juice & a letter to Jasmine.
Doctor: We found this in Daniel's pocket.
Jasmine read the letter which says:
Jasmine, this past few days, I realized you are really a cute girl & I am falling for you.. your cherished smile, your everything when we played this game.. & before this game ends, I would like you to be my girlfriend for the rest of my life. I love you, Jasmine...
Jasmine crumples the paper & shouted..
"Daniel! I don't want you to die...I love you... Remember that night we saw a meteor? I mumbled something.. I wished that we would be together forever & never end this game. Please don't leave me, Daniel... I love you, you cannot do this to me
Then the clock strikes 12
Daniel's heart stop pumping
THEN IT WAS THE 30th DAY...
Always love your loved ones & show them how you feel before it's too late.. You will never know when they will be gone from your embrace.. If you were given a time to bestow petals of everlasting compassion & love to your love ones, today is the day. Love them while they are still here...
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Relationship, Tips Untuk Wanita- 14 Sifat Wanita yang Tidak Disukai Pria
1. Akumulasi.
"Kamu kan sudah punya baju hitam, sayang." Pria tidak habis pikir mengapa wanita memerlukan suatu benda atau barang lebih dari satu.
2. Sahabat karib.
Pria juga punya sahabat baik dan mereka juga berdiskusi seperti wanita. Tapi yang tidak bisa dimengerti pria tentang wanita adalah, wanita menceritakan apa saja terhadap sahabat karib, termasuk tentang diri si pria itu. Seringkali disertai embel2, "Jangan cerita lagi kepada siapapun, saya hanya menceritakan kepadamu." Kalau takut diceritakan lagi kenapa harus cerita.
3. Menggerutu.
Yang juga tidak bisa dimengerti pria adalah, wanita menghabiskan satu sore menggerutui seseorang.
4. Menangis.
Pria paling tidak suka melihat wanita menangis. Hal ini membuat mereka merasa bersalah sekaligus bingung, apa yang membuat wanita menangis. Pria tidak bisa membedakan air mata kesedihan karena telah terjadi sesuatu yang benar2 menyedihkan. Karena film sedih pun bisa membuat wanita menangis. Selain itu ada rasa iri pada pria, mereka tidak bisa menangis seperti wanita walaupun sesekali mereka ingin melakukannya.
5. Rasa ingin tahu yang besar.
Termasuk ingin tahu, "Kenapa sih, sayang? kok diam saja? tanya wanita jika melihat kekasih atau suaminya berdiam diri. Kalau tidak dijawab si wanita akan terus bertanya, "Sedang memikirkan apa sih?" Padahal terkadang pria hanya ingin berdiam diri saja dan benar2 tidak memikirkan apa2. Kalau si pria bilang tidak memikirkan apa2 , wanita tidak percaya, "Ah bohong! kalau tidak kok diam saja?" Dan wanita masih nekat saja. Baru berhenti kalau pria benar2 sudah marah.
6. Bertanya tentang kondisi tubuh.
Pria paling tidak suka ditanya, "Sayang, saya gemuk atau kurus? Menurut kamu, saya tambah gemuk nggak?" Atau pertanyaan lain yang sejenis, Misalnya "Perut saya gendut ya? Atau pinggul saya makin besar nggak?" Ini merupakan pertanyaan yang menjebak dan paling sulit dijawab pria. Tapi sekali wanita bertanya pria merasa tidak bisa melepaskan diri. Kalau pria bilang tidak, si wanita akan bilang bohong, kalau ia si wanita tidak senang. Satu2nya cara pria untuk menghindari hal ini adalah pura2 sibuk atau lari.
7. Busana.
Pria benar2 tidak bisa melihat perbedaan antara acrylic skivvy dari DKNY atau kain warna hitam lainnya dari Zambesi. Apa salahnya pakai celana panjang yang dibeli tahun lalu jika masih kuat? Dan kenapa mesti beli lagi?
8. Cemburuan.
Yang ini juga cukup rumit untuk dipahami pria. Di satu sisi wanita bilang tidak suka pada pria yang overprotective dan penuh prasangka. Tapi pada saat yang sama, wanita cemburu melihat mata prianya terbelalak ketika menonton adegan seksi atau melihat wanita lain.
9. Cinta.
Pria memegang prinsip bahwa mereka cukup sekali saja mengatakan I Love You. Dan ini akan terus berlaku sampai dia menampakkan perubahan. Jadi pria tidak pernah bisa mengerti, mengapa wanita terus bertanya, apakah masih cinta padahal ia belum berubah. Sederhananya jika 2+2=4, mengapa masih harus bertanya? Kalau wanita terus mendesak paling2 dia akan "Sekarang saya kan masih sama kamu. Lalu kamu kira itu karena apa?"
10. Menu.
Yang juga membingungkan pria adalah, saat makan di luar, si wanitanya berkeras tidak mau makan udang goreng mentega, tidak mau spaghetti atau kue keju dan sebagainya. Tapi sesudah si pria memesan untuk dirinya sendiri, sepanjang makan si wanita terus ambil dari piringnya. Jika dia merasa terganggu dan tanya, kenapa tadi tidak pesan apa2, si wanita akan menjawab "Tadi kan saya tidak merasa lapar!" atau "Ah, saya kan makannya hanya untuk iseng saja." Dalam hati mungkin si pria berkata, isengnya kok gangguin orang makan.
11. Tak punya baju.
Pria tidak habis pikir, baju wanita selemari penuh, dengan belasan pasang sepatu. Tapi si wanita tetap saja bilang tidak punya baju untuk pesta. Pria juga tidak mengerti pada wanita mengapa baju yang sudah dipakai ke satu pesta tidak boleh dipakai ke pesta yang lainnya. Atau merasa salah tingkah jika bertemu dengan orang tersebut
pada kesempatan lain tapi masih pakai baju yang sama.
12. Permainan bertanya.
Pria takut dengan permainan bertanya yang disukai wanita, "Kapan pertama kali kamu merasa sayang pada saya?" "Waktu itu saya pakai baju apa?" "Dimana kita ciuman untuk pertama kalinya." Jika si pria salah menjawab biasanya wanita akan marah. Kalau dia lupa, wanita menganggapnya kurang perhatian, kalau perhatian kan akan ingat. Atau si wanita kurang berarti lagi untuk dia sampai saat sepenting itu pun sudah dilupakannya.
13. Alasan.
Pria juga merasa serba salah jika si wanitanya memintanya menjelaskan alasan sesuatu yang dilakukannya. Terkadang mereka melakukan sesuatu tanpa alasan tertentu. Jadi dalam hati pria mungkin bertanya, "Apakah segala sesuatu harus disertai alasan?"
14. Belanja.
Belanja merupakan olahraga satu2nya yang tidak bisa dilakukan pria. Itu sebabnya mereka paling malas kalau diminta mengantar si wanita belanja.
"Kamu kan sudah punya baju hitam, sayang." Pria tidak habis pikir mengapa wanita memerlukan suatu benda atau barang lebih dari satu.
2. Sahabat karib.
Pria juga punya sahabat baik dan mereka juga berdiskusi seperti wanita. Tapi yang tidak bisa dimengerti pria tentang wanita adalah, wanita menceritakan apa saja terhadap sahabat karib, termasuk tentang diri si pria itu. Seringkali disertai embel2, "Jangan cerita lagi kepada siapapun, saya hanya menceritakan kepadamu." Kalau takut diceritakan lagi kenapa harus cerita.
3. Menggerutu.
Yang juga tidak bisa dimengerti pria adalah, wanita menghabiskan satu sore menggerutui seseorang.
4. Menangis.
Pria paling tidak suka melihat wanita menangis. Hal ini membuat mereka merasa bersalah sekaligus bingung, apa yang membuat wanita menangis. Pria tidak bisa membedakan air mata kesedihan karena telah terjadi sesuatu yang benar2 menyedihkan. Karena film sedih pun bisa membuat wanita menangis. Selain itu ada rasa iri pada pria, mereka tidak bisa menangis seperti wanita walaupun sesekali mereka ingin melakukannya.
5. Rasa ingin tahu yang besar.
Termasuk ingin tahu, "Kenapa sih, sayang? kok diam saja? tanya wanita jika melihat kekasih atau suaminya berdiam diri. Kalau tidak dijawab si wanita akan terus bertanya, "Sedang memikirkan apa sih?" Padahal terkadang pria hanya ingin berdiam diri saja dan benar2 tidak memikirkan apa2. Kalau si pria bilang tidak memikirkan apa2 , wanita tidak percaya, "Ah bohong! kalau tidak kok diam saja?" Dan wanita masih nekat saja. Baru berhenti kalau pria benar2 sudah marah.
6. Bertanya tentang kondisi tubuh.
Pria paling tidak suka ditanya, "Sayang, saya gemuk atau kurus? Menurut kamu, saya tambah gemuk nggak?" Atau pertanyaan lain yang sejenis, Misalnya "Perut saya gendut ya? Atau pinggul saya makin besar nggak?" Ini merupakan pertanyaan yang menjebak dan paling sulit dijawab pria. Tapi sekali wanita bertanya pria merasa tidak bisa melepaskan diri. Kalau pria bilang tidak, si wanita akan bilang bohong, kalau ia si wanita tidak senang. Satu2nya cara pria untuk menghindari hal ini adalah pura2 sibuk atau lari.
7. Busana.
Pria benar2 tidak bisa melihat perbedaan antara acrylic skivvy dari DKNY atau kain warna hitam lainnya dari Zambesi. Apa salahnya pakai celana panjang yang dibeli tahun lalu jika masih kuat? Dan kenapa mesti beli lagi?
8. Cemburuan.
Yang ini juga cukup rumit untuk dipahami pria. Di satu sisi wanita bilang tidak suka pada pria yang overprotective dan penuh prasangka. Tapi pada saat yang sama, wanita cemburu melihat mata prianya terbelalak ketika menonton adegan seksi atau melihat wanita lain.
9. Cinta.
Pria memegang prinsip bahwa mereka cukup sekali saja mengatakan I Love You. Dan ini akan terus berlaku sampai dia menampakkan perubahan. Jadi pria tidak pernah bisa mengerti, mengapa wanita terus bertanya, apakah masih cinta padahal ia belum berubah. Sederhananya jika 2+2=4, mengapa masih harus bertanya? Kalau wanita terus mendesak paling2 dia akan "Sekarang saya kan masih sama kamu. Lalu kamu kira itu karena apa?"
10. Menu.
Yang juga membingungkan pria adalah, saat makan di luar, si wanitanya berkeras tidak mau makan udang goreng mentega, tidak mau spaghetti atau kue keju dan sebagainya. Tapi sesudah si pria memesan untuk dirinya sendiri, sepanjang makan si wanita terus ambil dari piringnya. Jika dia merasa terganggu dan tanya, kenapa tadi tidak pesan apa2, si wanita akan menjawab "Tadi kan saya tidak merasa lapar!" atau "Ah, saya kan makannya hanya untuk iseng saja." Dalam hati mungkin si pria berkata, isengnya kok gangguin orang makan.
11. Tak punya baju.
Pria tidak habis pikir, baju wanita selemari penuh, dengan belasan pasang sepatu. Tapi si wanita tetap saja bilang tidak punya baju untuk pesta. Pria juga tidak mengerti pada wanita mengapa baju yang sudah dipakai ke satu pesta tidak boleh dipakai ke pesta yang lainnya. Atau merasa salah tingkah jika bertemu dengan orang tersebut
pada kesempatan lain tapi masih pakai baju yang sama.
12. Permainan bertanya.
Pria takut dengan permainan bertanya yang disukai wanita, "Kapan pertama kali kamu merasa sayang pada saya?" "Waktu itu saya pakai baju apa?" "Dimana kita ciuman untuk pertama kalinya." Jika si pria salah menjawab biasanya wanita akan marah. Kalau dia lupa, wanita menganggapnya kurang perhatian, kalau perhatian kan akan ingat. Atau si wanita kurang berarti lagi untuk dia sampai saat sepenting itu pun sudah dilupakannya.
13. Alasan.
Pria juga merasa serba salah jika si wanitanya memintanya menjelaskan alasan sesuatu yang dilakukannya. Terkadang mereka melakukan sesuatu tanpa alasan tertentu. Jadi dalam hati pria mungkin bertanya, "Apakah segala sesuatu harus disertai alasan?"
14. Belanja.
Belanja merupakan olahraga satu2nya yang tidak bisa dilakukan pria. Itu sebabnya mereka paling malas kalau diminta mengantar si wanita belanja.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
[Love + Dating, Relationship, Story]~I Want Divorce!
My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?"
He said:" I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further.." This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.....
1. When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
2. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
3. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
4. You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your Tummy.
5. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
6. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs.
7. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die..
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting...and as I continue on reading...
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk... I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.... Now
I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone... That's life, and love.
When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. .flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands.. and that's our life.. Love, not words win arguments..
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?"
He said:" I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further.." This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.....
1. When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
2. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
3. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
4. You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your Tummy.
5. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
6. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs.
7. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die..
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting...and as I continue on reading...
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk... I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.... Now
I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone... That's life, and love.
When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. .flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands.. and that's our life.. Love, not words win arguments..
Monday, August 31, 2009
[Love + Dating]- The 5 Hardest Questions For Men
The 5 toughest questions for men are:
1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?
What makes these questions so difficult is that each one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly ( i.e. tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.
Question 1: What are you thinking about?
The proper answer to this, of course, is: “I’m sorry if I’ve been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you.”
This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following:
a. Baseball.
b. Football.
c. How fat you are.
d. How much prettier she is than you.
e. How I would spend the insurance money if you died.
(Perhaps the best response to this question was offered by Al Bundy, who once told Peg, “If I wanted you to know what I was thinking, I would be talking to you!”)
Question 2: Do you love me?
The proper response is: “YES!” or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, “Yes, dear.”
Inappropriate responses include:
a. Oh Yeah, shit loads.
b. Would it make you feel better if I said yes?
c. That depends on what you mean by love.
d. Does it matter?
e. Who, me?
Question 3: Do I look fat?
The correct answer is an emphatic: “Of course not!”
Among the incorrect answers are:
a. Compared to what?
b. I wouldn’t call you fat, but you’re not exactly thin.
c. A little extra weight looks good on you.
d. I’ve seen fatter.
e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.
Question 4: Do you think she’s prettier than me?
Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: “Of course not!”
Incorrect responses include:
a. Yes, but you have a better personality.
b. Not prettier, but definitely thinner.
c. Not as pretty as you when you were her age.
d. Define pretty..
e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.
Question 5: What would you do if I died?
A definite no-win question.
(The real answer, of course, is “Buy a Corvette!”)
1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?
What makes these questions so difficult is that each one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly ( i.e. tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.
Question 1: What are you thinking about?
The proper answer to this, of course, is: “I’m sorry if I’ve been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you.”
This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following:
a. Baseball.
b. Football.
c. How fat you are.
d. How much prettier she is than you.
e. How I would spend the insurance money if you died.
(Perhaps the best response to this question was offered by Al Bundy, who once told Peg, “If I wanted you to know what I was thinking, I would be talking to you!”)
Question 2: Do you love me?
The proper response is: “YES!” or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, “Yes, dear.”
Inappropriate responses include:
a. Oh Yeah, shit loads.
b. Would it make you feel better if I said yes?
c. That depends on what you mean by love.
d. Does it matter?
e. Who, me?
Question 3: Do I look fat?
The correct answer is an emphatic: “Of course not!”
Among the incorrect answers are:
a. Compared to what?
b. I wouldn’t call you fat, but you’re not exactly thin.
c. A little extra weight looks good on you.
d. I’ve seen fatter.
e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.
Question 4: Do you think she’s prettier than me?
Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: “Of course not!”
Incorrect responses include:
a. Yes, but you have a better personality.
b. Not prettier, but definitely thinner.
c. Not as pretty as you when you were her age.
d. Define pretty..
e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.
Question 5: What would you do if I died?
A definite no-win question.
(The real answer, of course, is “Buy a Corvette!”)
Sunday, August 30, 2009
[Biography] Kisah Hidup Warren Buffett Orang Terkaya di Dunia
Dari sejumlah buku dan ratusan naskah tentang Warren Buffett yang dibaca penulis, judul di atas merupakan penggambaran paling pas untuk sang superinvestor. Judul ini pula menjadi judul buku Robert G Hagstrom. Majalah Forbes menobatkan Warren Buffett sebagai orang terkaya dunia 2008, dengan total kekayaan US$ 62 miliar (setara Rp 542 triliun). Jalan yang ditempuhnya untuk meraih kekayaan adalah jalan kesederhanaan. Kepiawaian Buffet dalam berinvestasi, justru terletak pada kesederhanaan. Ia hanya berinvestasi di bidang usaha yang dimengerti. Kini kita hidup dalam dunia di mana mayoritas konglomerat dunia adalah produk American Dream, kaya mendadak. Memulai debut bisnis (mendirikan perusahaan), menjual saham di bursa, kemudian men- jadi konglomerat. Sedangkan Buffett, secara konservatif membeli saham perusahaan yang sudah berjaya atau mempunyai prospek/tradisi bagus, dengan keyakinannya menjauhi spekulasi dan saham- saham teknologi. Apakah ini pertarungan dua "ideologi" dalam bentuk lain? Pertanyaan ini layak dilontarkan. Sebab, pada saat yang sama, kita sedang menyaksikan "siaran langsung" di mana Tiongkok akhirnya melepas mata uangnya ke pasar. Tidak lagi dipatok terhadap dolar AS. Tiongkok tidak lagi menentang ekonomi pasar meski masih tetap menonjolkan aspek pengelolaan oleh negara. Dunia sedang "demam konservatif" ala Buffett. Tak terhitung lembaga pendidikan yang menawarkan kursus investasi ala Buffett. Tak terhitung keuntungan orang dengan menjual nama Buffett. Untuk makan siang bersama Buffett, Minggu 29 Juni 2008, tiket seharga US$ 500.000 (Rp 4,69 miliar) per orang, terjual habis. Semua ini, seakan menjadi kebangkitan kembali (revival) konservatisme dalam bursa saham. Andaikan terowongan waktu benar-benar ada, banyak orang yang ingin kembali ke tahun 1965, ketika dengan menginvestasikan US$$ 10.000 kepada Buffett, tahun 2008 ini sudah menjadi US$ 50 juta. Per 24 Juni 2008, harga saham Berskhire Hathaway (BRK-A) US$ 122.700/lembar. Dengan kurs Rp 9.380/dolar AS, kapitalisasi pasar BRK-A per 25 Juni 2008 adalah US$ 188,86 miliar dengan PER (price earning ratio) 16,33 kali.* Warren Buffett adalah investor nilai. Investor yang berani membeli saham suatu perusahaan jauh di atas harga pasar, jika nilai intrinsik perusahaan itu memang jempolan. Maka ketika QTel membeli 40,8 persen saham PT Indosat Tbk dengan Rp 7.388/ lembar, 30 persen lebih tinggi dari harga pasar Rp 5.650/lembar, untuk ukuran Buffett Way, bukan sesuatu yang aneh. Akhir tahun 2000, Berskhire Hathaway, perusahaan investasi Buffett, mengakuisisi 87 persen saham Shaw Industries di harga US$ 19/saham, padahal harga pasar hanya US$ 12,19/saham. Buffett membeli dengan harga 56 persen lebih tinggi dari harga pasar. Dengan membayar nilai seperti ini Buffett justru menuai untung besar. Tahun 1994, ia membeli 32 persen saham Coca Cola senilai US$ 12,4 miliar, tahun 2004 nilainya sudah menjadi US$ 60 miliar. Intisari penilaian Buffett terhadap suatu perusahaan adalah nilai. Maka, strategi Buffett adalah membeli dan bertahan. Dia bukan seperti George Soros yang murni spekulan, yang setiap saat bisa pergi kalau sudah memperoleh capital gain. Spekulasi besar-besaran gaya Soros seperti pada 15 September 1992 (yang dikenal sebagai "Rabu Hitam"), tatkala Soros meraup keuntungan hampir US$ 2 miliar dalam sehari, sungguh jauh dari wilayah pemikiran Buffett. Setelah Bill Gates 13 tahun bertengger sebagai orang terkaya di dunia, pada tahun 2008 posisinya digeser Buffett. Kekayaan Gates tahun 2007, menurut Forbes, hanya naik US$ 2 miliar menjadi US$ 58 miliar. Sedangkan kekayaan Buffett naik US$ 10 miliar menjadi US$ 62 miliar. Berbeda dengan konglomerat dunia lainnya, Buffett tidak mendirikan perusahaan sejak awal hingga besar macam William Gates III (Bill Gates), tetapi membeli saham perusahaan-perusahaan yang sudah mempunyai tradisi manajemen yang baik. Orang lain mendirikan dan mengembangkan, Buffett membeli sahamnya dan memolesnya sehingga lebih cemerlang. Membeli saham memang sudah dunia Buffett sejak kecil. Ayahnya mempunyai perusahaan broker. Sejak usia 11 tahun, dia sudah dimintai tolong ayahnya untuk membantu menulis harga-harga saham. Di usia 11 pula, ia membeli Cities Services seharga US$ 38,25/lembar, kemudian menjualnya di US$ 40/lembar. Ketika berusia 14 tahun, dengan modal US$ 1.200, ia sudah mampu membeli tanah seluas 40 hektare. Tanah ini disewakan Buffett ke petani lokal. Inilah passive income Buffett yang pertama. Meski menjadi orang terkaya di dunia, Buffett bukanlah tipe yang suka bermewah-mewah. Rumah yang ditempatinya di Omaha, masih rumah yang tahun 1958 dibelinya seharga US$ 315.000, dua tahun setelah Buffett mengawali kemitraan investasinya tahun 1956. Tinggal di rumah tua, tetapi bisa memberi sumbangan US$ 30 miliar kepada Yayasan Bill & Melinda Gates. Ketika George Soros mendonasikan US$ 300 juta untuk "menggembosi" komunisme di Eropa Timur, dunia berdecak kagum, dan Soros menjadi filantropis kelas wahid. Ternyata tak sampai 10 tahun, Buffett mendonasikan 100 kali lipat dibanding Soros. Buffett masih tetap sederhana, laporan tahunan kepada para pemegang saham, masih tetap hanya berisi kata-kata, tanpa grafik, tanpa tabel. Buffett tetap hanya mendayagunakan kata-kata, milik semua manusia secara gratis, sejak bayi. Gabungan 3 Orang Hampir semua penulis tentang Buffet menilai, Warren Edward Buffett (lahir di Omaha, Nebraska, Amerika Serikat, 30 Agustus 1930), adalah gabungan dari sedikitnya tiga pemikir/pebisnis. Pertama, Benjamin Graham (yang dikenal sebagai analis saham pertama di dunia), penulis buku Security Analysis (terbit tahun 1930-an, diinspirasi krisis bursa 1929) dan The Intelligent Investor (1949). Graham adalah ilmuwan yang juga praktisi bisnis saham. Benjamin Graham bukan konsultan, tetapi guru. Graham bukan hanya mampu berteori bahkan menulis buku dan menjadi analis pertama, tetapi juga mampu melakukan yang dikatakannya. Kedua, adalah John Burr Williams, penulis buku The Theory of Investment Value (1938). Selama enam dekade, buku ini bertahan sebagai panduan utama para analis dan investor. Buffett meringkas teori ini: nilai suatu bisnis ditentukan arus kas sepanjang hidup bisnis itu (dipotong diskon bunga). Nilai seekor ayam, diukur dari telur-telurnya, saham diukur dari dividen-dividen. Itu sebabnya Buffett berani membeli saham di atas harga pasar. Ketiga, adalah Charles Munger, yang awalnya adalah investor mandiri, di mana Munger juga bisa mengungguli indeks Dow Jones Industrial Average. Sering sekali, keduanya justru membeli saham yang sama. Tahun 1978, mereka bergabung. Beli dan bertahan, mengambil manfaat dari fluktuasi pasar, itulah yang dilakukan Buffett. Maka ia tetap mengoleksi 200 juta lembar saham Coca Cola, 151,61 juta lembar saham Amex, serta 1,73 miliar lembar saham koran legendaris The Washington Post (termasuk majalah Newsweek). Biaya pembelian Washington Post adalah $ 11 juta, harga pasar tahun 2003 sudah $ 1,367 miliar, lebih dari 100 kali lipat. Masalah kita sekarang, dalam kancah pertarungan konglomerat modern macam Bill Gates yang mengandalkan teknologi, dengan Buffett yang menganut kesederhanaan berpikir dan bertindak, dunia tetap dengan realita di mana 10 persen populasi menguasai 90 persen aset dunia. Ada keterlepasan (uncoupling) perkembangan kalangan atas dengan kalangan bawah. Nyatanya, jumlah orang miskin di Indonesia malah bertambah. Atau lagi-lagi seperti kata Pramudya Ananta Toer, kaum lemah akan menjadi energi atau korban kaum kuat untuk berkembang tanpa batas.soros
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Absolutely amazing! Beauty of Mathematics !!!!!!!
Absolutely amazing! Beauty of Mathematics !!!!!!! kudu bc ampe habiss!! (^,')v
1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321
1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111
9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888
Brilliant, isn't it?And look at this symmetry:
1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
111111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
1111111111 x 111111111 = 12345678987654321
Now, take a look at this...101% From a strictly mathematical viewpoint: What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%? Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100% How about ACHIEVING 101%? What equals 100% in life?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:
If: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
If: H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K
8+1+18+4+23+ 15+18+11 = 98%
And: K-N-O-W-L-E- D-G-E
11+14+15+23+ 12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%
But: A-T-T-I-T-U- D-E
1+20+20+9+20+ 21+4+5 = 100%
THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F- G-O-D
12+15+22+5+15+ 6+7+15+4 = 101%
1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321
1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111
9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888
Brilliant, isn't it?And look at this symmetry:
1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
111111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
1111111111 x 111111111 = 12345678987654321
Now, take a look at this...101% From a strictly mathematical viewpoint: What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%? Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100% How about ACHIEVING 101%? What equals 100% in life?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:
If: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
If: H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K
8+1+18+4+23+ 15+18+11 = 98%
And: K-N-O-W-L-E- D-G-E
11+14+15+23+ 12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%
But: A-T-T-I-T-U- D-E
1+20+20+9+20+ 21+4+5 = 100%
THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F- G-O-D
12+15+22+5+15+ 6+7+15+4 = 101%
Be a Fun-to-be-With Person
Most people like being around fun individuals. It's just human nature. People who are fun are usually quite popular among their friends, have good social lives and are rarely bored. Do you want to be a fun person? If so, read on.
This is the steps :
1. Listen. Fun people don't do all the talking when it comes to conversations. Good conversations are crucial when you want to be a likeable person, and sometimes you just have to be quiet and listen. Realize too, that listening is a learnable skill that takes practice, and it's more difficult than many people believe. So talk about a topic/subject you want to, then listen to his/her opinion about it or let them start a topic for a convo.
2. Smile and laugh. Laugh because people like people who laugh with them (not at them). This makes people happy and brightens the way they think of you. It makes you seem like you truly love life and you can deal with any problems that you have to face. Be a happy person, not ditsy and uncaring, but optimistic. Think about the people you most enjoy being with, usually they are always on the up and up. There are times to be sad, but they should not take up a majority of your time.
3. Make eye contact. This is very important because it makes people feel like they have all of your attention, you are listening, interested in what they have to say and they are getting the attention that they deserve. It also makes you seem more trustworthy, honest, and open. If you are always shifting your eyes around and looking at everything but the person you're talking to, people will think that you don't care what they have to say or you have something to hide.
4. Be active. Are you having fun when you are sitting at a bench, looking down and not doing anything at all? In order to be fun to be with, you need to be active, to stand up, to be creative. Maybe do a "happy dance" when something good happens, take up a sport, or twirl around to cheer someone up. It works!
5. Be curious. Know what you'll be doing later. If you get turned down or rejected, move on. You never know what's going to happen until you try. Always try to seek out more knowledge or skill in an area that interests you. It will really improve your character. Go ride a bike past the local park or walk to the nearest local hangout spot because you never know who you'll meet.
6. Care about yourself. In order to be a fun person, you must be confident. Also, physically take care of yourself--practice personal hygiene, Eat Healthy for Life, and Get Fit.
7. Be sociable and friendly. In order to be fun to be with, you'll need to build some new relationships so people start noticing you. Be friendly to everyone--people who were mean to you, that guy that sits next to you in math class, your team captain--everyone. Treat your new friendships well. Praise them, cheer them up when they're down. Joke with them (not at them), help them, invite them to parties, etc. Just be yourself, and be a people person. Be friendly, kind, giving, caring, generous, learn about them, and make the want to know more about you. Be mysterious and intriguing! It totally works.
8. Dont be afraid to really go out there! If you are afraid of people thinking you are weird, strange, etc., just think of the bright side. You don't need them, and hey! you're trying to meet new people anyway, so it will take your mind off the negatives.Plus who cares about what anyone else thinks. Don't let anyone be an azz and label u. Be who you want to be and dont be afraid to be yourself. People hate phonies!! So go out there and rock the real u.
This is a Tips for you, hope useful :
* Save some time each day for your own needs.
* Don't be afraid to be yourself, whether or not it overlaps or doesn't overlap with other people's interests. Be interested.
* Always pursue knowledge. Knowing a lot will help you become wittier.
* Know your limits, and let other people know those limits too.
* Always be trustful and honest. Be genuine and don't gossip about others.
Remember don’t do this :
* Don't only pay attention to being fun. You need to keep a more serious side and let it show at appropriate times too. If your friend is asking you for support through hard times, you need to take that as your responsibility and show them that you're a friend worth keeping. Same thing goes with your parents--show them that you deserve more freedom by doing what they say and being responsible.
* Don't try to make people think you are fun. It comes off as phony and pushy.
* Don't laugh at people. Laugh with them. It's good to laugh at yourself, though. You have to in order to stay happy through your mistakes and failures.
* Be aware that the kind of fun you're having is healthy, legal, and doesn't cause anyone any harm, including yourself..
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Thursday, August 27, 2009
[Self Improvement] Positive Thinking Can Bring Good Health
Your thoughts are in your control, and they can be very powerful. Positive thoughts can motivate healthy behaviors, such as eating right and being active. It's simple really. If you believe you can take 10,000 steps a day, you will be more likely to take an extra walk to meet your goal. If you know you can avoid holiday weight gain, you'll feel great when you pass the tempting dessert buffet, and fit comfortably in your winter clothes. But the reverse is also true. Your thoughts can be defeating. "I'm already overweight, so it doesn't matter if I eat a second piece of cake." Or, "I only have 10 minutes. It's not enough time to walk." Negative thoughts, often called negative self-talk, may sabotage your good intentions. "I think I can" Remember the famous children's book "The Little Engine that Could"? The theme, with its chant, "I think I can, I think I can," helped the small train make it up the hill. The book's message is as true today as it was when it was first published in 1930. If you set your mind to something, you can do it. One in four Americans are trying to lose weight at any given time, and older adults are joining gyms in record numbers. If you are one of them, you are more likely to reach your health and fitness goals with the right attitude. Positive thinking can help you achieve and maintain healthy behaviors, such as becoming more physically active or limiting your sugar intake. Studies have measured the success of positive-thinkers and found that those who think they can lose weight, or increase their physical activity, do! These people are more successful than people with less faith in themselves. The confidence you have in performing a certain behavior is called self-efficacy; and self-efficacy is a key in successful behavior change. Want Results? Can Do! Many professional athletes get top sports training and coaching in positive thinking to help them achieve their goals. And it works! The same can apply for you and me. A "can-do" attitude may be just what it takes to jumpstart a healthier lifestyle. Best of all, your attitude is something you can control. You have the choice to have a positive outlook. Chances are when you choose to think positively, you'll feel better about yourself and be able to perform better in whatever you do. Losing 20 pounds or running a marathon this year may be unrealistic. But there are small goals in your reach that do not require drastic life changes. For example, your weight loss goal may be to cut 100 calories a day. Try leaving two bites of hamburger on your plate, hold the jam but skip the butter on your bagel, or have water instead of fruit juice. You can also burn 100 calories more by taking the stairs, parking further from store entrances, or walking to a lunch spot further away from your office. Keep Pushing Like the "Little Engine", sometimes you need an extra push. There will be days when you don't floss, slip from eating right, or lose your temper. Small setbacks are normal. Learn from your past success and failures. Think about what sets you off course. Maybe it was the business travel that hurt your nutritional plan and exercise habits. Or maybe it was the looming deadlines and tight back-to-back appointments you had last week. Take a minute to consider how you might have handled the situation differently. Maybe you could have shared a dish with a colleague at the business dinner or skipped the cocktail hour and the dessert tray. Don't dwell on the past. Move on and learn, so next time you will make healthier choices toward positive change. How to Stay Positive Positive thinkers admit when they feel frustrated or depressed. They don't ignore it. But they also don't blame themselves. Instead, they try to understand the negative thoughts and feelings and counter them with more positive ones. So how do you stay positive, maintain momentum and sustain healthy behaviors? Here are some tips: * Look for a good role model. There is always someone who seems to be doing just what you want to be doing. Maybe they've scheduled exercise into their workday and switched from coffee to herbal tea. Learn from a successful friend, family member or colleague. Ask them how they keep healthy and follow in their footsteps. * Try some positive self-talk and avoid negative-talk. Take a minute to give yourself an ego boost. Repeat some motivational words out loud or to yourself. Negative talk, "I can't do it," "I'm fat," is dangerous for your well-being and healthy goals. Try to avoid the negative self-talk before it harms you. Remind yourself that you deserve happiness and can make positive changes. * Get support. Tell your friends and family about your healthy habits. It helps to have an encouraging network. * Reward yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for your healthy efforts. Take a nice bath, get a massage, and enjoy a new DVD or CD. * Have a plan. Making a plan to exercise or eat healthy lunches with a friend can mean the difference of sticking with your goals or falling off track. If you've planned for an activity, you'll likely stick with it. You may even find that writing down your goals and steps to achieve them can help you stay on track. Take it day by day or week by week. The process of writing down your personal action plan is a good way to keep you honest and watch your progress or pitfalls.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Things to Remember
The most important things in your home are the people. Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional. There is no key to happiness, the door is always open. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry. Life isn't fair, but it's still good. Faith is the ability to not panic. If u worry, u didn't pray. if u pray, don't worry. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home every day.. Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape. When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot. Do the math, count your blessings. God wants spritual fruits, not spiritual nuts. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Try to make at least three people smile each day. We don't remember days, but moments. Life moves so fast, so enjoy your precious moments.. Nothing is real to you until you experience it, otherwise it's just hearsay. Surviving and living your life successfully requires COURAGE. The goals and dreams you're seeking require courages and risk-taking. LEARN FROM TURTLE---it only makes progress when it sticks outits neck. BE MORE CONCERED WITH YOUR CHARACTER than your reputation. your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Hari Terbaik dalam Hidup
Setiap orang yang divonis menderita kanker memiliki kesamaan mutlak:
terkejut, tidak menyangka penyakit itu akan menghampiri mereka dan kematian seolah di depan mata.
Berikut adalah sebuah surat dari seorang penderita kanker:
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Hari terbaik dalam Hidup
Hari ini, ketika saya bangun, tiba-tiba saya sadar bahwa inilah hari terbaik yang pernah ada dalam hidup saya! Ada saat-saat ketika saya bertanya-tanya apakah saya akan mampu hidup sampai sekarang; tetapi ternyata saya mampu! Dan karena saya mampu, saya akan merayakannya. Hari ini, saya akan merayakan kehidupan yang sangat menakjubkan yang sejauh ini telah saya jalani: prestasi, anugerah, dan, ya, bahkan kesulitan—karena kesulitan membuat saya lebih kuat. Saya akan menjalani hari ini dengan kepala tegak dan hati bahagia. Saya akan mengagumi anugerah Tuhan yang kelihatannya sederhana (yang seringkali diabaikan banyak orang): embun pagi, matahari, awan, tumbuh-tumbuhan, bunga, dan burung-burung. Hari ini, tak satupun dari ciptaan ajaib ini akan luput dari perhatian saya. Hari ini, saya akan membagi kegairahan hidup saya kepada orang lain. Saya akan membuat seseorang tersenyum. Saya akan berusaha melakukan kebaikan yang tak disangka-sangka untuk seseorang yang saya tidak kenal. Hari ini, saya akan memberikan pujian tulus kepada seseorang yang kelihatannya sedih. Saya akan mengatakan kepada seseorang anak kecil betapa hebatnya dia, Dan saya akan mengatakan kepada seseorang yang saya kasihi betapa dalamnya kasih saya untuknya, dan betapa besar arti dirinya untuk saya. Hari ini saya berhenti mencemasi apa yang tidak saya miliki dan mensyukuri semua karunia Tuhan yang saya miliki. Saya mengalami bahwa cemas hanya akan membuang-buang waktu saja karena sebenarnya percaya kepada Tuhan sudah menjamin segala sesuatu akan berjalan baik-baik saja. Dan malam ini, sebelum tidur saya akan ke luar rumah dan menatap langit. Saya akan merasakan keindahan bulan dan bintang-bintang, dan saya akan memuji Tuhan atas kekayaan alam yang sangat indah ini. Saat larut malam tiba dan saya meletakkan kepala di bantal, saya akan bersyukur kepada Yang Maha Kuasa karena memberikan hari terbaik dalam hidup saya. Dan saya akan tidur seperti seorang anak kecil yang merasa puas, sangat gembira karena sebuah harapan: esok pagi adalah hari terbaik yang pernah ada dalam hidup saya. George M. Lousig-Nont, Ph.D. Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Buku ini berisi kumpulan surat-surat dari penderita kanker yang adalah seorang pemenang dari penyakitnya! Tak jarang sikap hidup positif, penuh pengharapan serta dukungan orang tercinta membawa mereka pada umur panjang yang sangat mengagetkan dunia medis. Satu hal yang mendorong saya membagikan surat ini kepada Anda: Saya menyadari bahwa para pemenang ini berhasil menang oleh karena penyakit yang mengancam nyawa ini membukakan mata mereka mengenai TUJUAN DAN ARTI HIDUP dan menyadari hidup adalah ANUGERAH dariNya. Ketidakpastian hari esok ‘menampar’ mereka dan membangunkan mereka dari berbagai kenyamanan dan kesibukan yang menyita waktu. Mereka melihat, merasakan, menghargai dan melakukan banyak hal yang tak mereka lakukan saat mereka masih sehat. Hal-hal yang tidak dilakukan/disadari juga oleh orang-orang yang sehat (atau mengira dirinya sehat). Para pemenang ini kemudian melakukan hal-hal yang mereka impikan selama ini (yang ditunda-tunda karena merasa masih punya banyak waktu). Sebuah kalimat bijak yang sering kita semua dengar:Apa yang selama ini kita ingin lakukan? Apa yang ingin kita katakan dan berikan pada orang-orang tercinta? Apakah bakat/talenta yang Ia anugerahkan yang belum kita gunakan/maksimalkan? Dengarkan suara dalam hati Anda…“Hiduplah seolah hari ini adalah hari terakhir Anda hidup”.
Kita tidak pernah tahu kapan tiba hari itu, alangkah bijaknya untuk tidak menunggu dan menunggu untuk melakukan perbuatan yang bermakna.
Lakukan hal-hal yang kita tahu saat esok hari kita menengok ke belakang, kita gak akan menyesalinya!! =)
Bila salah satu pintu kebahagiaan tertutup, pintu lain akan terbuka; tetapi kita sering kali memandang terlalu lama ke pintu yang tertutup itu sehingga kita tidak melihat pintu mana yang terbuka bagi kita.-Hellen Keller-Hidup adalah Anugerah, Hidup hanya 1 kali. God Bless=) ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 2009 This inspiring message delivered by Inspiration Inbox http://www.inspiration-inbox.com (English) http://id.inspiration-inbox.com (Bahasa Indonesia)
